NC and going to try and be as least outing as I can, so bear with!
Been with DH for 4 years, have a 1 year old son, planning another baby soon-ish. He’s been in his job for a year or so, and about 5 weeks ago, an ex gf began work for the same company, knowing he worked there. They’re on teams that work very closely together, though he won’t have to partner up on anything exactly, something could be worked on by both teams at once so there may be the need for communication regarding meeting client expectations etc.
Ordinarily, this is not something that would bother me, but this particular ex has form. They were together a year before he and I were, for around 18 months (she cheated, split further down the line because of that and many other issues) and she’s struggled to let go, shall we say. Creating reasons to bump into him once they split, trying to make him jealous with other men, lots of flirting if they ever do bump into each other, pleaded with him to take her back for a good 6 months, etc.
So here’s the dilemma, whilst I’m not at all threatened, and we don’t speak about her at all (he knows I’m not her biggest fan due to previous behaviour so doesn’t bring her up in his work stories to save me the rage 😂) it’s absolutely grating on me that she’s been so disrespectful to me in the past and I know that she’s still so hung up, that she’ll be using this as an opportunity to try and get back in his good books with a view to making a move, for want of a better phrase. It hasn’t happened yet, but she’s the type to suggest regular activities/drinks etc to spend time with him.
So I know I’m probably being quite unreasonable, but what do I do? I have no worries that he’d reciprocate any attention or affections (as sure as anyone can ever be, anyway!), and if she ever gave him any inkling it was heading this way, I know he’d make it very clear he isn’t interested, but there’s not much he can do until then. The fact that given time I know she’ll try, and to be honest the fact that she’s there at all, is quite simply, pissing me off.