Baby/toddler party and family

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I invited both sides of the family (my parents/siblings and their partners and DH's parents/sibling and partner and children to my child's 2nd birthday 'party'.

I've now been told I shouldn't be doing 1 combined, but should be doing 1 party/get together for each side of the family.

Aibu to do it all together?

Why not? Who told you this? Aren’t you all one big family now? Never heard of doing separate parties each side of the family (mind you other than my sons first birthday the grandparents didn’t come to any parties as I invited lots of kids instead).

But its one family. Your family. Two would be off, I'd only expect something like that if there was a bitter divorce. Who said you should do two?

Your child doesn’t have 2 sides to invite, their family is their family. It’s only the parents that have a side each but really as a married couple the 2 sides are meant to be united.

Beside all that it’s ridiculous to suggest 2 parties. The only time my DC have had 2 parties has been a little tea party for family and a separate party for their friends.

Thank you - exactly what I thought! They are all her family!

It was my father that said it

Do whatever the hell you want. Ignore your dad's complaints.

It's pretty strange that he would make this sort of demand. If he continues to be arsey about the arrangements for the party I'd just tell him that he isn't obliged to come if he doesn't want to. Hopefully that will shut him up. If he's grumpy on the day then just embarrass him by telling him to cheer up in front of everyone.