to not want to visit?

[nottodaysatanlucifer]

I've noticed that when anyone wants to see me, I always have to go them.

I'm 30 weeks pregnant. I'm round and miserable and counting down the weeks to feel relatively normal again. I have two kids already, youngest is 3. I work part time.

I'm quite happy sitting at home whenever I can, I like my own space. But whenever friends or family want to see me I noticed it's always me having to go to them. I don't even drive 😕 it's starting to bother me.

I'm starting to run out of excuses to want to be a hermit and not have to tell them that 😂

I can't help but feel like I'm horribly unsociable.

AIBU

I probably am 😂

Friend: "Do you want to meet up?"
OP: "Love to! Do you mind coming to mine? Getting a bit weary of running around now."

Sorted?

You don’t “have” to. Say no.

What Charlotte said

Totally agree with all thats above.

You have a perfectly legitimate reason for not wanting to go out. If they can’t come to you then just say no, sorry, not feeling up to the bus journey now I’m so heavily pregnant, sorry.

Good to get them in the habit of visiting you now so the continue once Bump has been born and they want to come round and see him/her and give you baby gifts, saves you carrying them and the baby on the bus.

Another vote for @StCharlotte

Op
There are 2 very good reason not to go to them.
1, You are heavily pregnant with no wheels.
2, You simply don’t want to, their turn to travel.

Pick your answer and go for it.
Good luck

I know, honestly... I don't know why I find it so hard to respond normally and say no 😂 it's like my brain shuts down and goes into panic 😂🥴

There's no "have to" about it.
Speak to them.
Tell them it is their turn to come over to you.

Use your pregnancy like a shield. I’ve had HG and the amount of friends/family who have offered to ‘get me out of the house’ is insane. It’s like I’ve simply had a cold 🙄🙈

You really do just have to stop caring I’m afraid. ‘GP told me to rest indoors’ - ‘It’s dangerous for me to drive’ - ‘I can’t put baby in danger for a day out’ - ‘when you had novo virus did you fancy the cinema?’

^ all responses I have sent recently 😂

Glad it's not just me 😂

Tbf I know the last month I have been really antisocial. I dodge calls a lot now, try and dodge texts but that's almost impossible these days. So I know deep down I am the miserable one.

I just feel so wiped out. Third and final child... most definitely am not going through pregnancy again!

I also am quite high risk during this pregnancy so I have a lot of hospital appointments to attend and am fully expecting another preterm labour. Everyone knows this. I think they assume because I'm out and about going to appointments and doing school runs that I'll want to go over to their houses to see them when in reality I just want to be in my own safe space at home 🥴

What does quite high risk mean? Maybe different in UK but where from you are either high risk or not. Is the risk to yourself or to the baby? Regardless just tell them to visit you.

No no no and no. That's all you need to say

It was the same when I was heavily pregnant 2 months ago. I think some people forget how tough it can be being that big and uncomfortable so I was blunt. “Would love to meet up but feeling tired and big. Would you like to come to me?”

No one said no.

I've been told I'm high risk because I have placenta previa, no signs of it moving as of yet 🥴. I also had preeclampsia with my first so he was born premature by emergency c section and my second I went into preterm labour with naturally so he was also prem! So they are watching me like a hawk at the hospital 😬