To be feeling so bad on 30th birthday

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I think I need a bit of sense knocked into me. I've had a really tough few years. I found out my partner of 6 years had been having an affair with an 18 year old and had also cheated with others between the ages of 17-21. He was 5 years older than me but for the first time I suddenly felt too old for him and just..too old in general.

We broke up a couple of months ago and I moved away. It's my birthday today and as I don't know anyone in the area I'm spending it alone and feeling very upset about leaving my 20's behind. I worry no one is going to want this 30 year old single mother with lots of new found trust issues when they can have a woman way younger with less baggage. Everywhere I look I see guys talking about how women 'hit the wall' at 30. I saw an interview with a certain celebrity who complained that at 30 she was suddenly asked a lot about what she plans for the future now she cant be the 'hot girl' anymore. I see that the top category for porn these days seems to always be teens.

I look at other women 10/20/30 years older than me and see beautiful, confident, amazing people so I don't know why I feel so bad about myself being older. Am I just going to be messed up for good? Did any of you feel similar only to turn it around?

Happy birthday!! Awh 30 is not old at all!! Look at people like j lo lol. I know its all surgery etc, but shes 50 and thats not stopping her! Honestly try to embrace it, right now you feel old but in 8 or 9 years time you may look back and regret not enjoying it. You arent alone, when the right man comes along, he will love you for you! And give love to your child too. I think everything you have gone through is making you feel this way. I hope you feel better soon! Enjoy your birthday. Buy yourself a nice box of chocolates and indulge! X

Happy Birthday!

Well done for getting rid of your waste of space ex. He is the reason you are feeling like this. Take some time out to get back to being you.

Can you take up any new hobbies so that you can meet people?

Is there anything you can do with your child/children this evening like get a take away and watch a movie?

I know you know this really, but 30 is not old. The kind of men who watch 'teen' porn are not the kind of men you want to be dating anyway.

I think this is just a wobble due to recent events and you WILL be fine.

Happy Birthday. Indulge yourself and remember that you are not going to feel like this by tomorrow even.

I’m 41 divorced (ex shagged a younger waitress) single mum, no issues getting dates and attention and have built my career. Nothing long term but I believe it will happen.

Work on you, believe me, men may fancy 20yos but the ones I’ve met prefer an older intelligent conversation of their own generation.

You’ll be amazing, set yourself some goals and bid goodbye to the waste of space who made you feel this way. It feels better out the other side I promise you!!

Happy Birthday! I turned 30 in July so I can understand where you are coming from.
Please don't take your asshole of an ex cheating as a reflection of you and your age, it's a reflection of how much of an immature prick he is.
30 is amazing! I felt worried about ageing but when I stopped to think about it, boy am I glad I'm on 20 anymore! So little life experience, so insecure. 30 is beautiful, and women in their 30's are gorgeous and incredibly attractive and you will meet many lovely men who think exactly the same way.

Happy birthday!

and for you.

I cried when I turned 30 almost 7 years ago!
Honestly though, it's been the most freeing, best decade of my life. I don't feel like I'm in completion with every other woman like I felt in my twenties, I feel more comfortable in my own skin and more confident in myself. I feel competent at work and able to take on responsibility.

I also left my dickhead ex and met DH as a single mum 5 years ago. I'm having the time of my life. Enjoy it!

Happy birthday. I felt the same op but you know what life is what you make it. You do not need a dp you need to get out there and have your own life.
When I turned 30 I looked worse than what I do now. I started looking after my face and figure as for the first time I realised everything was a bit well, droopy. I actively spent money on myself something I hadn’t done for a long time. I exercised again something I’m shit at and still struggle to do.

And even if I didn’t ‘look’ better I’m still in control of what I do each day to make myself feel happier. I’m sorry you had a shit ex but don’t let him get you down. Best way to get over a nob is to get yourself back up there and make yourself feel better. Don’t get me wrong I still mull around in bed feeling sorry for myself but I try to outweigh those days with the ones where I think well fuck me im lucky with what I already have. My health my dc and my Chanel wrinkle cream

Happy birthday 🎁

Between bad luck & bad choices, many people don’t make it to 30.
You’re alive! You’re not with a cheater! You’re a mother!
Happy Birthday!

I turned 30 the same day my DD started primary school and everything hit me. I was divorced and a single mum.
I think society tells us we should have all of our ducks in a row by the time we hit 30; decent career, house, husband, 2.4 children and a labrador. That wasn't the case for anyone I know!
I met my now DH at 31 and I am having a much happier 30s than 20s. You get to the age where you can be more confident with what you actually want in life.
Wishing you a happy birthday and enjoy what your 30s hold for you