To want to feel embarrassed

[BettyBloom]

So Dd (7) came downstairs after an hour of being in bed crying, DH was in the shower at the time. I asked why the tears and she said "I got scared the other night and came in to your room and I saw something I shouldn't have" this filled me with immediate dread of what was to come next. I asked what she had seen, " I saw daddy on top of you naked"..... I'm now trying my hardest not to laugh and trying to think of something to say. I asked what she thought we were doing and she replied with cuddling (phew, crisis averted) she then continues to say, she thought that sort of cuddling was naughty and that she doesn't want us to go to jail, by this point I'm bright red with embarrassment. I just replied that when you are married and love each other that sort of cuddling is allowed but only if both people cuddling say yes.

I'm not sure why she thinks it's naughty, why we'd go to jail or where she might have seen 'that sort of cuddling' before. Our bedroom door is normally pushed to but not closed as it rattles when people walk around upstairs, so getting in our room in stealth mode can be done, now im thinking of getting a lock to prevent further embarrassing moments like this happening.

I feel rather embarrassed for her, would you have explained it differently, did I say the right things?

😂😂😂 you have to laugh....I think you handled it admirably! Well done!
And good luck for when she finds out the truth about naked cuddling! Xx

I think that was a great response. Thankfully my older two haven't surprised us yet, only my 4yo on Christmas day, who managed to sneak into the bedroom to come and tell us his stocking was full and father Christmas had been 😂 I guess it was a good distraction from trying to figure out why DP was doing it flat doggy style (sheets hid everything!!). Was very hard to keep a straight face whilst your DP is burying his head under the covers in fits of giggles whilst trying to remove himself and you're trying to have a serious conversation about father Christmas. They don't teach you these things at NCT classes 😂

This has happened to me 2.... they just walk in. Wat can u do.

Yes married people cuddles if that what the OP chooses to teach her child then thats it. She may want her daughter to not have sex outside of marriage. if thats what you are annoyed about, OP is absolutely allowed to raise her daughter how she sees best and does not have to explain to you what that is about. If you want to teach your children that having sex outside marriage is great then do so.
You have no right to question anyone's life's choices.