Pregnant & thinking of separation

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Hi all

I am 5 months pregnant, and a couple of days ago, while sorting out some documents in my husband's docs bag, I found a paper of his previous divorce which i didn't know about. I didn't know that he was married to someone for 3 years and he never told me. I haven't confronted him yet as doing so will make things worse and I will have to move out. I want to arrange my accommodation and think of other pregnancy stuff before I do so I am planning.

Am I overthinking and overreacting here on the fact that my husband lied to me and betrayed me like this? I am extremely anxious and worried and upset. Can you someone guide me what I should do?

First thing you need to do is to speak to him about it and get all of the facts, get his side, and find out why he didn't tell you.

Did your marriage certificate not show his previous marriage? They usually say "previous marriage dissolved" or words to that effect.

What concerns me about your post is “I haven’t confronted him yet as doing so will make things worse and I will have to move out.”

Is he aggressive? Violent?

It’s very weird that you don’t want to talk to him. If he’s abusive or violent then I can understand why but if he’s not then I think you obviously should talk to him!

He was very dishonest and deceptive to not tell you he had been married and divorced previously and that would be a very huge hurdle to get over in a relationship