I’m feeling really low today and was wondering if people could talk to me about your experiences dealing with close friends or family moving really far away. My dsis and I are very close in age and we have lived next door to each other since we both moved to our city after uni- going on 10 years now. In that time we have both had our kids, my dd and her ds were born 2 months apart, we were pregnant together and they are more like siblings than cousins, go to school together in the same class etc. I rely on my sister so much - she was my maid of honour at my wedding, we support each other through all ups and downs, have each other’s backs with childcare, often holiday together. I know how lcuky I have been to have that relationship through my twenties and now thirties. And now she is moving to literally the other side of the world, in the Far East, for a job. She will be amazing, the kids will love it, and I know they haven’t been happy in our city because of money worries and just not liking the environment for their family. I feel the same in a lot of ways about living here but am more rooted here purely because of the type of work I do.
However now she is getting out and I feel so many things- sad, panicked, jealous, happy for her, disbelief I guess. I know now that I won’t get to see my Dniece and dnephew grow up and likelihood is my dsis and I will never have this type of bond together again in our lives. It feels almost like a breakup or a bereavement (doesn’t help that my marriage is also ending, jsut shit timing really.)
Please tell me how you came to terms with this. Tell me it’s gonna be ok. We are all so close but I feel like I’m going to be here in a life I am not really happy with, and I will miss my best friend and my niece and nephew so much. I see them every day as I pick them all up from school. And my dd is going to be bereft too, I worry, though I know kids are resilient.
How do you cope when this happens?