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To have the rage about this article!

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SilverChime · 07/10/2019 09:33

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-7536971/amp/Mummy-blogger-reveals-got-figure-pregnancy.html

It’s basically saying that if you eat right you’ll look like that post pregnancy. I dieted and exercised right through my pregnancy and only gained 5lb on top of the actual baby and fluid etc. But I have terrible stretch marks, diastasis recti and an apron of skin, so no chance of ever looking like that. Most mothers cannot achieve that stomach no matter what they do. I’ve cried all morning because that article has made me feel like the state of my stomach is my fault.

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MrsMaiselsMuff · 07/10/2019 09:36

It's the Mail, what do you expect? Have you seen all the nasty stuff they've said about Meghan Markle?

You're not being unreasonable about the article (although I'm taking your word for it, I'm not clicking on the link). You are being unreasonable to read the DM.

HulksPurplePanties · 07/10/2019 09:38

God why do you even read that goady shit?

Real title would be "Stay at home Mummy "blogger" married to wealthy actor has all the time, money and professional help she needs to make sure she look perfect at all times because she has nothing better to do with her sad, sad, empty, vain life"

Does that title make you feel like shit?

WorraLiberty · 07/10/2019 09:42

The article's not even been online 2 hours and you've cried all morning?

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SilverChime · 07/10/2019 09:45

I read articles like that during pregnancy and it gave me false hope that I’d look normal afterwards if I just dieted and exercised. I’m still trying to come to terms with the fact that my body has been ruined despite me having done everything I could. It’s incredibly traumatic to be told actually you just didn’t try hard enough, so your ruined body and shattered self esteem are your own fault.

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AutumnRose1 · 07/10/2019 09:47

OP I'm sorry you feel so bad

I get a bit confused because there was a lot of skepticism around shit like this 20 years ago, so where did that go? This is not reality!

WorraLiberty · 07/10/2019 09:47

If that's what you're choosing to read into the article, you should really stop reading these things.

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SilverChime · 07/10/2019 09:47

The article's not even been online 2 hours and you've cried all morning?
At 9.30am an hour or two is “all morning”.

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HulksPurplePanties · 07/10/2019 09:47

It’s incredibly traumatic to be told actually you just didn’t try hard enough, so your ruined body and shattered self esteem are your own fault.

The only thing that's your "fault" is allowing your self esteem to be tied to your physical appearance. Surely there are other things about you more important than a flat tummy?

MrsMaiselsMuff · 07/10/2019 09:49

How long is it since you had your baby Silver? Have you spoken with your GP about how you're feeling? Your reaction is excessive, which makes me wonder if you have postnatal depression or anxiety?

Your body is not ruined, but it is different. Please don't listen to anyone judging you on your post baby body.

AutumnRose1 · 07/10/2019 09:51

in general OP, do you read a lot of stuff about appearance etc? It's all shite. Don't read it.

Butchyrestingface · 07/10/2019 09:54

It’s incredibly traumatic to be told actually you just didn’t try hard enough, so your ruined body and shattered self esteem are your own fault.

Who’s telling you that?

Stop reading that shite.

Raphael34 · 07/10/2019 09:54

You’ve cried all morning over some daft article in the daily mail? I’d stop reading the papers if I were you

Passthecherrycoke · 07/10/2019 09:55

To be fair, being back to your pre pregnancy weight 20 weeks after birth isn’t that unusual- I guess most people’s pre pregnancy isn’t quite like hers though lol. And I say this as someone 17 weeks PP, put on neatly 3 stone and have 1/2 a stone to go to my PP weight. Can’t seem to lose it though as breastfeeding and starving

Look when I was younger (before Instagram) a good friend of mine got into closer magazine as one of those before and after weight loss stories. She said she was exercising and eating protein and vegetables yadda yadda

She was actually totally caning the cocaine, which makes you lose weight.

You never know what’s going on behind closed doors

And even if it’s all true, who cares? She lives thousands of miles away, she’s ONE woman. If she wants to be on a strict diet and exercise like a maniac post birth that’s her call. You could’ve done that, but I suspect you didn’t because you prioritise your baby, sleep, and enjoying maternity leave

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SilverChime · 07/10/2019 09:59

How long is it since you had your baby Silver?
Two years. I’m thinner than I was before pregnancy. I still have pain from my section. My stomach is still a mess and it can’t be fixed. I gained so little weight that the doctor told me I had to eat more for the safety of my baby - I don’t see what else I could have done to achieve the results that the woman in the article has got.

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Runningmyultra · 07/10/2019 09:59

Just don't read the Daily Mail fgs

TheStakeIsNotThePower · 07/10/2019 09:59

I really wouldn't listen to an article that thinks a woman had a postpartum delivery and had to recover from her postpartum.

Also, imo she looks like she has separated abdominal muscles which haven't come together particularly well. Enjoy your baby, take your time, your body is wonderful, it grew a baby! I feel for the woman in the article, her living depends on her body being suitable for the male gaze.

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SilverChime · 07/10/2019 10:00

You could’ve done that
I did do that. I didn’t get those results. My stomach is too stretched and scarred.

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FudgeBrownie2019 · 07/10/2019 10:00

As others have said, step away from bollocks like the Mail, permanently. In fact, step away from everything that makes you feel like shit about your body; adverts in women's magazines, diet pamphlets, anyone who promotes any kind of juice cleanse, the whole "change yourself and feel better" bullshit trotted out daily.

Your self esteem needs to come from somewhere other than this; it's unhealthy and unrealistic to expect your body to look like one which hasn't had a baby; it has. It's carried life and will now be permanently changed. I don't mean to sound glib, or cruel, but your body has done something incredible. Work on learning to love it, to cherish it, to be proud of it.

museumum · 07/10/2019 10:01

STOP READING THE DAILY MAIL.
PLEASE.
This is their method. They prey on insecurity and create it where it didn’t exist before.
You may not be able to control your stomach skin but you can control what you read. Please. Just ban yourself from it.

Dotty1970 · 07/10/2019 10:01
Confused Is your baby healthy? Some people have more things than this to cry about I'm afraid
MatildaTheCat · 07/10/2019 10:02

Your body has not been ruined. That statement is actually offensive to anyone who actually has suffered a life changing injury.

Runningmyultra · 07/10/2019 10:02

Honestly that article is just so crap on every level, I couldn't resist clicking 🤦. She called her kid Chase fgs and refers to having a baby as 'her journey' honestly I'd just do a massive eye roll and move on to some sensible news instead.

AutumnRose1 · 07/10/2019 10:03

OP what has happened to your stomach is reality for most women after having a baby.

there was a thing here last week which made me realise that a lot of adults are actually taking "influencers" and so on seriously. I would count the DM shite as part of that. Step away from it. Look at real life instead.

Butchyrestingface · 07/10/2019 10:03

I don’t see what else I could have done to achieve the results that the woman in the article has got.

Probably nothing. So why sweat it?