Miscarriage time off work -AIBU?

[Superleo837]

I started bleeding at work last Monday so I left work early and took two days holiday while I had a private scan and an NHS scan. Lots of painful cramps and then found out definitely miscarrying on Wednesday last week. Work all fine. I work 40 miles away each way in open plan small office. Took Friday off sick but just waiting to miscarry properly bit scared to go anywhere. GP has signed me off all the following week ( this week). Now bleeding very heavy lots of cramping which is severe. I’ve told work I’ll be in Wednesday but I’ve got follow up hospital Thursday (possibly d and c) and I’ll be in Friday. Do you think this is reasonable? I feel so guilty for being off for nearly 2 weeks but I have no idea how else I’d manage this. Can’t work from home. I just hope they’re not thinking wow how come she’s taking so much time off!

You've had good advice here.
Take the time off, at least this whole week.
Be kind to yourself, I'm sorry you're going through this.

I'm so sorry for your loss

I miscarried last November, on a Friday. I took that afternoon off (to go to the hospital) then was back in on the Monday. So, so stupid. I didn't deal with it, emotionally, at all and was in lots of discomfort. My advice would be to take as much time as you need to heal. No job is more important than properly dealing with this.

What everyone else said. Be really kind to yourself, OP. When the actual miscarriage is happening you feel like you just need it to be over and then you'll be fine but I found that the emotional bit caught up with me afterwards.

Yep take the time off. I actually had nearly three weeks off as had to wait over a week for an ERPC (MMC) but was terrified of staring to m/c at work or in the commute. GP was more than happy to sign me off.

I had 3 weeks off when I had my miscarriage, no regrets. I'd urge you to be honest with your manager if you feel able to, GP had no issues signing me off, I had lots of repeat follow ups with HCG not dropping etc, you need time to physically recover and emotionally I was a wreck. My managers were understanding. Dont feel guilty, there are more important things in life than work and looking after yourself is one of them.

If you do have a D&C on Thursday it will probably involve a general anaesthetic, and depending on the time of day they might keep you in overnight anyway.
I really can't see how you'd be able to work the very next day. I felt like I'd been hit by a truck the day after I had had one.
Please take all the time you need and your GP will write you another absence certificate if you still need a few more days at home after this week. So very sorry that you're going through this.

Take as much time as you need. When I miscarried I went back to work after a week and I really wish I’d taken two, not only to recover physically but also to recover emotionally. Look after yourself.

My GP signed me off for 2 weeks when I had my MMC. He said that was the minimum I needed, looking back I wish I took 3 weeks. I had to have a medical management of miscarriage and emotionally it was very difficult.
Take all the time you need. Work is just work, look after yourself and be kind to yourself.

I have had 4 miscarriages and was working when I had 3 of them.
Each time I was signed off for 2 weeks. I had never had never been signed off work before and when I went into work they sent me home as without a note from the docs I shouldn't have been on the premises. In truth I needed that time off to come to terms with the psychological and physical loss.

Be kind to yourself. Work is not going anywhere.

Don’t go back too early. You must let your body recover and emotionally it can be really quite awful. The amount of bleeding can be a real shock and you don’t want to be back at work and start passing huge clots again (happened to me and was horrendous!)
Wishing you a quick recovery xxx