Photos on social media!!!!!

[gerbilgirl]

Maybe IABU but why oh why do people feel it is okay to post photos of other peoples kids on social media without permission

We occasionally post pics of our children (adopted) but are very selective with privacy settings and what the photo shows.

For the second time I am asking the same person (family member who should know better) to take down party photos clearly showing our kids (full face shots) with tagged locations!!!!!! They did this earlier this year and were apologetic and removed them but have today done the exact same thing

I know social media plays a huge part in day to day life and although once could be accidental twice is surely unreasonable!!!!

Any suggestions for dealing with this going forward would be greatly appreciated as well

YANBU I had the same issue with my brother posting pictures of my children with their names. He mixes with less than desirable people who I don't know and don't want these people 'knowing' my children. I asked him to remove and he refused (because I post photos of my children - on my carefully locked down sm account - so why can't he?!). I contacted fb and they removed as they were pictures of minors without parental consent (have to say I was very impressed with how quickly it was dealt with as well).

No advice just hope you get it sorted.

Any suggestions for dealing with this going forward would be greatly appreciated as well 

Bring them up on it again and tell them that every time you see they have done it, you'll tell them to remove it.

I hate it when people do this and probably get more pissed off than average as I am extremely anti social media.

Thanks for all the replies.

It was a photo that was taken of all the kids at a relatives birthday party (not by us). I had said to sil that if it was social media bound then I would distract the kids so that another one could be taken without them but it doesn't look like one was.

Our direct family are fantastic about it but this is my partners siblings in laws and they are very much people who do what they want rather than listen to others. Luckily they are only people we have to see a few times a year so I will just need to more a lot more aware in the future I think as they simply do not listen.

I thought the fact that the kids are adopted is relevant as we live in the same county as birth family and restricting their photos online is something that we do to restrict the possibility of them being tracked down should anyone decide to. Having said that we may not have been overly sharing of photos on social media even if they were birth children.

We do use whatsapp with parents/siblings to share photos and no-one in that group has ever shared anything they shouldn't.

I think whilst most people view social media as part of the world we live in for some people there are risks associated with too much being put out there and we probably need to try and find some happy medium.

@Rachelle11 adoption isn't always done with the parents wishes - haven't you heard of forced adoption? So the natural parents can look for children and having those children plastered on the 'net means they're easier to find. I know if a family who had a child forcibly adopted and have found her this way. She was removed because SS felt her home was unsafe at the time but she's been tracked down. Having people share photos when they've repeatedly been asked not to is very thoughtless op, I wouldn't send them photos again.

Yes I have obviously. I was a product of forced adoption! I was just curious as to OP's reasoning and if she was making that clear to the family.

Honestly surely it would just be best and for the safety of the dc not to post the pics at all.

Anyone you want to show pics to ie grandparents etc use WhatsApp and send directly to that person or show them on your phone when you visit.

Given the situation with your dc I wouldn’t be posting pics of them at all, it’s just safer all round that way. Anything you put on social media could end up anywhere

YANBU at all.
Not just the safety aspect, but I really dislike this way of taking and posting pictures / videos of children when they might disapprove of said media once the grow up. They are not in control of their own image being spread around on the internet.
There is way too much obsession with sharing any kind of photograph from one’s cat to one’s holiday.

I know an adopted child who had been removed due to violence and sexual Abuse and was tacked down because she posted a picture of herself on Facebook with her school badge vestry visible , birth dad came to school to see her