To think this is shit?

[Gretais]

Separated with a 2 year old. Ex has contact but on his terms.
He collects him late in the morning as he HAS to go to the gym
He lied last week about being in work to avoid having his child
He refused to have him stay one night as he needed a lie in
if he has weekends off he won't have him for both nights he always books a night out for one of the nights

Shit isnt it?

Yes. My ex does the same BUT I grew up not knowing my dad and that really is shit. My ex DH hasn't paid maintenance for three weeks now but I don't stop contact as I know how crap it is to feel like you only know one half of yourself...it's not fun but what choices do you have?

i wont stop contact but ffs pull your finger out

You're lucky. Been separated a year and he hasn't had our children for a single night overnight. Picks them up after his nice lie in and drops them back before bedtime

It’s shit, but unfortunately not a lot you can do. My DDs dad hasn’t seen her in 6 years and not one penny has left his bank to provide for her. I’ll never understand how parents can have little to no contact with their children!