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Questions about getting a dog

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notanotherfucker · 06/10/2019 20:27

I am thinking of getting a dog but have no idea, hence asking very basic questions.

Do you need to pick up the poo if you are in a field? Countryside? I know you do on pavements etc but if somewhere else?

How often do they need taking out?

What breed would be good with kids and not need huge amounts of exercise?

OP posts:
Pardonwhat · 07/10/2019 19:23

Yay Vizsla!!!!! I get so excited when I see them GrinGrin

I don’t understand why OP is getting the hump from some people?? I doubt these are her only questions. Probably just the main ones that she hasn’t been able to get many answers too.

My biggest advice OP would be to be very realistic about the amount of exercise and mental stimulation that you can offer a dog. (I’d also read up on how these are different things and aim to provide both). Once you’ve been incredibly realistic on time - including on days you’re sick and it’s posting down - then look for a breed accordingly. Don’t just buy a dog on looks.

Health testing is also massively important. I’d avoid any breed that is inherently deformed. Eg. Pug or French Bulldog. You’re asking for Heath problems (obviously someone will reply now that their French Bulldog Bruce runs 3 marathons a day and is a professional acrobat but Bruce will be the general exception).

Redspider1 · 07/10/2019 21:12

Our dog hasn’t cost us much at all so far. Had her 3 years,£10 pm insurance, cheap dry food from Aldi (Langhams) and she’s fit and happy. The only expense is grooming every 2 months at £35.You can do it yourself but we end up making a mess and she looks a sight!

Redspider1 · 07/10/2019 21:14

I think it’s a fair question to ask about picking up poo in a field. All other wild animals poo there! My local forest has a sign saying please stick and flick as they dislike the use of plastic.

WickedGoodDoge · 07/10/2019 21:19

They can be far far more expensive than you could possibly imagine, even with insurance. Mine likes to eat things that will kill him and has an incredible knack of finding these things like mince pies in the middle of the woods. Always at night or a Sunday when only the emergency vet is open at £180 a pop.

whatisthismess · 07/10/2019 21:20

I have 23 dogs and I walk them all twice a day

LolaSmiles · 07/10/2019 22:09

redspider
Our local walking area/nature area where dogs can be off lead is a stick and flick area too, though most dogs tend to be off the path to do their business.

Pardonwhat
I think getting the hump is a bit strong, but the whole post (though well intentioned) is someone who is most likely very early on in the "thinking of getting a dog" process, so they're probably best advised to be doing more broad research in specific areas over a sustained period of time rather than trying to find a breed they fancy now.

pumkinspicetime · 07/10/2019 22:24

Unless you’re a psychopath you will get a dog and fall in love with the bloody thing wether you want to or not,
I don't think I'm a psychopath honestly but I don't love our dog. Five years in I realize I am truly not a dog person despite thinking initially a dog would be a good thing.
DC adore the dog so I don't regret getting him but I've never having another. And they live for a long time so if you realize that it wasn't what you hoped you have decades to wait out.

MrsEricBana · 08/10/2019 00:07

Decades? Will feel like it perhaps if you don't love him.

MustShowDH · 08/10/2019 00:26

Look after a friends dog for the whole of the school summer holidays. A week isn't long enough, because it will feel like a novelty and the kids will be up for going for walks and picking up its poo.

pumkinspicetime · 08/10/2019 01:33

@MrsEricBana A decade and a half to fair, he is a long lived breed. I think that most people probably do love their dogs and it didn't really occur to me I wouldn't but I don't. I think it's not a bad idea to highlight that this is a possibility.
I love my cat but I honestly mostly find the dog rather annoying.

reasonablesettlement · 08/10/2019 01:40

Read up about dogs.
Then read again.

Then start thinking about getting a dog. But not before. By your questions you are not ready to get a dog.

aurynne · 08/10/2019 04:50

I have a Cairn Terrier cross and I adore her, she makes my life better and happier. She has always been an easy dog: clean, quiet (she barely ever barks), had the shortest chewing phase as a puppy, does not dig, is completely non-aggressive, has no separation anxiety. We were incredibly lucky with her. She is, however, still a big responsibility and cost. For her first 7 years of life she only went to the vet for shots and spaying. But then she tore a ligament while playiong with another dog and needed 2 surgeries, and then developed a heart condition which needed expensive medication to manage. So we have probably spent over £5000 in her so far in the last 3 years.

Still, we are planning to get a puppy now, because we are dog people, and she is such a good dog that we hope she can help train the new puppy into good habits. Also, if she passed away and there were no other dog in the house I know I would find it extremely difficult to cope. We are very aware that things can go wrong, our dogs may not get along, and actually the puppy may change our dog's behaviour to the worse. We are very aware that we will likely not be as lucky with the new puppy as we were with our current dog in temperament and "easiness". I am taking time off work to spend with the new puppy to train her as best as possible to address any issues before they areise and I have booked a training session already, even before the pup arrives. And we are highly aware of the extra responsibilities and limitations having two dogs entail. Still, I do believe having this new dog will bring more positives than negatives. And even if I am wrong, it is a life being we are adopting, one who will be vulnerable, and dependent on us, so we will have to suck it up and love her even if it does not work out as well as we hoped.

I have always had dogs though, so I have an awareness of what is involved in owning one, and the love and pleasure they bring to your life, for me, compensates for any negative.

Pardonwhat · 08/10/2019 07:55

LolaSmiles

I beg to differ.

Roselilly36 · 08/10/2019 08:16

How refreshing, asking for advice, rather than so many that just rush out and get a dog without really considering the impact. So well done for that.

My advice would be, what you are doing already, giving it careful consideration. We had our dog from a pup, until he was PTS at 13, we loved him to bits, and but we have never got another dog. They are a major commitment and expense and not a decision to be made lightly, particularly if you like to go on hols and are unable to take your dog with you. The comparison of a dog being similar to a toddler is spot on, leave them for a little while and they will be making mischief. They can be very destructive if left when pups.

I am sorry if my post makes it sounds all gloom and doom, it isn’t at all, they are also wonderful companions but it is a huge commitment of time.

I hope you make the right decision for your family and if you decide a dog is right for you he/she has a loving home for life. Good luck OP.

PleasedToMeetYouSir · 08/10/2019 08:30

Agree with the poster who says they are much more work than walking and feeding.

I thought I was prepared but was shocked at how much care they actually require. We just had cats before who are an absolute doddle in comparison.

BUT if you're willing to commit and give them what they require both in terms of care, attention and love then it can be very rewarding I think. I'd never change my dog for anything, he's fantastic and really brightens up some of my downer days!

Pandaintheporridge · 08/10/2019 08:36

I wish I could convey the amount of work and cost to my dcs, who are firmly in the let's get a dog camp and have no idea how much work would land on my shoulders (or, more realistically, don't care). I feel I'm depriving them of a proper childhood not to have a dog (we both had one growing up) but I really really don't want the commitment! This probably makes me a bad mum but a responsible non-dog-owner. Confused

LolaSmiles · 08/10/2019 15:28

Pardonwhat
In what sense?

They do seem early in the process so it probably would be best to do some broad research on the impact of a dog overall, not just walks and poos. It wasn't a criticism to be early on, but a few people (me included) just wondered if they'd thought fully about the immediate and ongoing impact on daily life.

IamMummyhearmeROAR · 08/10/2019 15:36

I have a German wirehaired pointer pup. She has endless energy and has at least three walks a day. She is extremely nippy at home with her razor sharp teeth and the kids go between loving and loathing her depending on her behaviour. She’s been with us 7 weeks and she’s turned our world upside down. I love her very much but she’s a twat

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