To be abit upset that DH wants to go away without us

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I have two older Dc aged 12&10. They have nothing to do with their biological dad/his family. Dh is their dad to them. We also have a 3year old Dd together.

Youngest makes it really hard to do anything with the older two. They have been wanting to go to London for a while but the thought of taking a toddler terrifies me.

Dh has said he wants to take Dd away to a haven site for a weekend in April to “give me and the older ones a break”.

Part of me thinks it’s a lovely idea, dd3 would love it but part of me feels sick about it. I hate the thought of her having fun and meeting the animals without me.

Aibu ☹️

Meeting The animals?

Yes. Yes you are. It's just a weekend and she'll be with her dad. You're being silly.

Yes you are. Take your older children away at the same time.

This really isnt a blended family issue its age of siblings. They should all have an opportunity to do things they would enjoy.

Anxious, roary etc 😂

No issues with her being with her dad, he’s amazing and I know they will have the best time ever. But I’m abit jealous 😂🙈

Could you take your other DC to London for the weekend while DH is away?

That’s my plan x

If that’s the plan then why are you upset

We have this in our family - it's not blended but have 3yr old with 12 & 10 yr old. We do loads together but we often split up one take bigger two off while one has small one. We had a fabulous day & night in London recently with big two while grandparents minded 3yr old. There's no way we would have had the same time with her. While the big two love her to pieces they really really enjoyed just doing older stuff & having all the attention. So we already planning to do something else like that with them just a day n night though Wed all miss little one too much for any more!

Anxious, roary etc

Fuck me.

Just take the older two to London in that weekend 🤦

Well the weekend will be about having loads of fun with your older kids won’t it? So why would you feel like you are missing out? Enjoy them