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Not saying bye!

10 replies

SongLark12 · 06/10/2019 15:26

Aibu to be upset my OH did not shout bye or come and say bye before going out? I just feel it's disrespectful.

For context he panicked because he realised an item of clothing he purchased 2 weeks ago was the wrong colour and only had til today for a refund/exchange.

He was already planning to go out anyway but was leaving it to the last minute as he didn't think he'd need to go further to the specific shop.

I kept telling him to go the previous hour before and leave everything to me. I.e. lunch cooking and his washing on.

I called him and he said he hasn't got time to consider saying bye to me to let me know he'd actually decided at that point to go out.

He'd already got upset with me a few hours before as I hadn't washed some items of clothing so was already feeling unappreciated.

Just feel it's a lack of respect. Maybe I'm over reacting. It's not uncommon for me!

OP posts:
SilverySurfer · 06/10/2019 15:28

I think you are over reacting, it wouldn't bother me at all. You knew he was going so its not like he disappeared off the face of the earth.

GrandmaSteglitszch · 06/10/2019 15:28

You sound like a pair of twerps.

billybagpuss · 06/10/2019 15:29

I think there are bigger issues to get upset about. It sounds like you're both having a bad day.

Hope it gets better.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 06/10/2019 15:30

I think it’s time to get a grip. He went out to exchange a T-shirt, not to travel the world. As for ringing him to complain, was it really so urgent that you couldn’t just wait for him to come back?

MinTheMinx · 06/10/2019 15:34

Is this a joke? You knew he was planning to go out, yes?

I kept telling him to go. So he did. Sounds like you need to calm down a bit!

OrangeSwoosh · 06/10/2019 15:36

If this is the biggest issue that you have to get worked up about, then you're doing ok

Bunnybigears · 06/10/2019 15:39

My DH does this all the time it is nothing more than mildly annoying. He never thinks to say bye when he goes out or hello when he comes in so I will often come downstairs to find he has either disappeared or reappeared without any notice.

NoSauce · 06/10/2019 15:40

Is this what MN has become?

purpleolive · 06/10/2019 15:40

I think this is one of those things that depends how you were raised. My mum feels extremely strongly about this, and so I did too. My DH wasn't raised like this, so I found it hurtful if he popped out without saying goodbye. Anyway, it only took a conversation.

ClemDanFango · 06/10/2019 15:42

He’s annoyed you didn’t wash his clothes? Are you in the 50’s?

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