Hi all, I was wondering if I could ask some pretty urgent advice on what to do in my situation. Urgent as in I’ll need to decide before tomorrow! I’ve got myself into a real dilemma here. I’m particularly looking for advice from people who’ve had to shift onto universal credit from tax credits suddenly and all that entails.
Backstory: I’m a single mother of three kids (aged 17, 7 and nearly 5) living in a pretty rough, crime ridden London borough. My oldest son was mugged last month on the way home from school and there are daily fights/stabbing/robberies where we are. Not good. Most of the schools have gone downhill also and although I actually do really like the schools my kids are currently at, I wouldn’t want to send my younger two to secondary school locally when the time comes if I’m honest. It’s really spiralled round here but it is better the devil you know.
I’ve lived in the area most of my life and when I left my abusive ex 5 years ago, we had to go into temp accommodation for a while until I found the private rental we are currently in just over 4 years ago.
It’s dreadful; the agents try their best but the landlady lives quite far away and just doesn’t care at all. There have been several major leaks that’s she’s left to get worse (which have seeped through wood/brick/plaster), my boiler exploded and she left the cylinder leaking through to downstairs for two weeks (a couple of months after I’d decorated 🤦🏼♀️), she left us with a broken oven for three months. The back room has leaked for the entire time I’ve lived here and destroyed a lot of my kids toys. (I’ve now thrown/moved everything out of there Bar a spare freezer so we’ve lost the use of that room. The laminate was all broken even when we arrived, etc. The radiators have all stopped working and it’s getting cold again. The list goes on and on - she just does not care about making her house a decent place for her tenants to live. I have spent a lot of my own money into the place, decorating, paying plumbers to fix some of the leaks and professional cleaners to help with the mould. But quite frankly I’m sick of plying my own money into this bitch’s house when she won’t fix the source of many of the problems in the first place (identified by Thames water as faulty piping). On top of the shitty house and shitty area, I am so, so done.
I’ve managed to save up enough money for a deposit/first months rent on a new place (no mean feat for a low earner when rents are extortionate in the southeast). As I said, my earnings are not great and are topped up by tax credits/housing benefit (another issue as not many agents/landlords want to know). I’m not proud of it. But I’ve managed to find a nice little place in a town 10 miles outside of London (decent road/rail links however). It’s slightly smaller, but everything is new (floors/kitchen/bathroom) and it’s lovely. The area is nice and boring safe with good schools. I’ve been well and truly seduced even though the timing is not sensible.
Problems: we’d have to commute down for the next year as my oldest is doing his a-levels and can’t move schools at this point. I also work down in the original area so would wait to move jobs/kids to new schools until my eldest had finished his exams. That’s a 20 mile round trip every day until next summer. That will be very stressful on all of us (and maybe too much strain for our little Hyundai)!
I’ve also been on the phone to HMRC for advice as I’d been made aware that I’d have to switch over to Universal Credit and the guy on the other end of the phone advised me not to and to wait a couple of years to move until all tax credits claims change over to UC on a “managed move” so that we retain the same level of financial help. He told me that moving onto UC suddenly would mean quite a drop in income and potentially a long wait for the money to come through, meaning that I could go into rent arrears on the new place in the first couple of months of living there which is not brilliant and is now causing my new agents to wobble (the decision may well be taken out of my hands by them tomorrow actually)! The guy at HMRC was very kind; he suggested that saving a bit more money before I move would be better - to cover 2/3 months rent instead of one as UC is notoriously unreliable. He also told me that if I move house/change jobs within the borough I’m currently living then I can stay on my existing claim. He suggested I sit tight where I am for a couple of years and get into a better position before moving as so many people who had done what I’m planning were in lots of trouble now. My oldest will come off it when he hits 18 and goes to uni but apparently that will not trigger UC - he’ll just come off the claim. Anyone know if that’s correct?
This is all very worrying and I’m wondering if I should pull out of the move. The new house will be ready in a month (an overwhelming thought as it is) but I’ve not gone too far into the process yet to put a halt to it. I’d lose my holding deposit (£288) - a costly mistake. But I’ve not paid the whole lot yet so it’s not too late to back out.
But then we’d be stuck here in this depressing hell hole and I can’t stand this house. It’s making me and the kids so flipping depressed. AIBU to move now regardless or should I be sensible and stay put for the time being? I’m thinking I have two or three options:
1. Stick with moving to the new place, go on to universal credit and become a lot poorer. Live in a beautiful, well taken care of house/area. But a 20 mile daily commute back and forth during my son’s a-level year is iffy. The kids could have a lovely life in the new area and we have a support network up there. But the finances are worrying me hugely as is the commute. It seems a case if right house/wrong time.
2. Find a house (how long would that take?) and move within my current borough so that my kids are local to their schools and I’m nearer to work. I could stay on the safer tax credits/housing benefit system within my local authority so the whole move would be smoother and more timely. But the area is still a shithole (perhaps something we could cope with if the house wasn’t also a shithole) and rents are pricier (albeit not by much). Start saving up again for a “forever move” to the more rural area I was looking in which could take another few years! (Before the younger two start secondary school).
3. Stay in the current house we’re living and plunge all my savings into fixing (well, patch-jobbing) my evil landlady’s house. Actually this is not an option - I would resent it so much I would go properly mad.
Just to note: I’m not proud of my current situation, having to claim tax credits/housing benefit top up like this. I wouldn’t have dreamed we’d end up in this situation. And I know there are people out there who believe beggars can’t be choosers and we should suck up living in a quite frankly gross and dangerous house. (I’ve met people with this attitude). But my children’s health, happiness and safety is not something I’m willing to compromise on regardless of my social standing as one of societies’ underclass. When I am fully qualified in a few years I will need less or no help from the government with any luck. I am also raising three (potentially higher rate) tax payers with any luck! 🤞🏻
If any one has any knowledge on this stuff I would be forever grateful... 