I’m just done

[TinyMystery]

I’m on holiday, DS(1) isn’t sleeping properly, he keeps having high pitched screamy tantrums, he’s breastfeeding constantly, my nipples feel like they have been ripped to shreds, everything is sandy. I just want to be alone and not touched by anyone.

DH has offered to take DS out for the day and leave me to it. I know that DH is knackered too as he did a big race yesterday, but WIBU to say yes? He’s already let me have an extra hour in bed this morning to catch up on some sleep. I just feel like such an awful, grumpy mother.

Having recently finished breastfeeding I can now appreciate how tired it makes you. It’s definitely an extra layer. You deserve it.

He CHOSE to do ‘a big race’ yesterday, you are not choosing to be woken up by DS or to have sore nipples etc.

FGS don’t stop him sharing the load

Say yes.

Yeah the race is a red herring, he got time to do somthing for himself. Must have been a full day? You absolutely should have a break.

He wants to do something good. Don’t be a martyr-let him take the baby.

He chose to do the race, he has offered to take DS. Maybe he actually wants to spend time with his son? Taking a day to feel a bit happier and a bit better will make you a better mum, not a worse one.

He knows the race was his own choice and that you are getting very little choice about your life.

A change could be good for all 3 of you.
Say YES.

Yes, for goodness sake give him the baby.
The race is part of a hobby, he spent a big chunk of time on himself (fine) now let him take the load.

Before anyone thinks badly of DH, we have the same hobby, I did the same race distance-wise two weeks ago and basically did no childcare all weekend. Jobs etc. are split as evenly as possible but as I’m the one with the boobs, I just seem to end up with a very strong, wilful toddler attached to me constantly.

No one is thinking badly of dh.

Why is it that you don’t want to let him take your son for the day when he wants to? I don’t get it.

Tiny you seem to be experiencing disproportionate levels of guilt. No one has done anything wrong. It sounds like you need/deserve a rest and your DH has offered to make that happen. There is no problem here. Go back to bed or have a bath or whatever, it's all OK.

I understand about the guilt, DH and I usually take it in turns to get up in the morning with the boys, but the baby still feeds overnight so if it’s been a particularly bad night dh often offers to get up on his lie in day. I feel irrational guilt about it as although he’s not getting up in the night, he does wake when I get up and he has to go to work whereas I’m on mat leave. I still say yes though!

he let you have an extra hour of sleep that's good of him !

he let you have an extra hour of sleep that's good of him

Oh be quiet. Some men can’t do anything right.

OP have the day to yourself.

nosauce he's a parent too, and who are you to tell me to be quiet on an open forum ?

Don't be a martyr OP, have the day to yourself.

Right, he’s a parent too and the Op has said everything is split evenly and that when she did the same hobby a few weeks ago she did no childcare.

So why do you need to make snippy remarks about him letting the OP have an extra hour in bed?