To be fed up of caring so much about others when they don’t care back.

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Just feeling a bit meh and need a moan.

I’ve been a sahm for years now, finally got a job that will fit in around the kids and I’m really happy and proud of myself for getting it. It’s not a big fancy job, it’s a job many would view as beneath them but for me it’s a big step in to the working world.

I’ve beeb telling family members about it and I’m so disappointed in their reactions. One family member I’m supposedly close to could barely raise a well done and just crapped on about how hard it will be to find childcare in the holidays.
I told another family member who I feel like I have supported a lot over the past couple of years. They went through a really shit time and I was always there for them to offload to, keep company etc. They haven’t even replied to my message but have read it.

I felt so good at first and now I feel and deflated, embarrassed at myself for feeling so excited about it.
Aibu? If someone I knew said they had got a job I would be nothing but positive and encouraging.

Disappointing for you.

Well done for getting your job. Hope all goes well with it.

Congratulations on your new job!

YANBU to be disappointed that you haven’t had more support from people you’re close to.

If you have a partner have they been happy for you?

Sorry that was a long moan.

Dh is making out like he’s happy now but I know he would rather I was at home.

You should be proud, congratulations!

I have had many similar experiences sadly OP. Years ago I read a survey in which people had been asked to name their best friends. Almost none of the names were reciprocated- the so called “best friend” didn’t put the other person anywhere near best friend status, and I’ve always been a bit cynical about friendships thanks to being stung too many times

Congratulations on the job x
I feel your pain. I care more always, I think I am just not enough for anyone and have come to sort of accept that now.

I honestly find that very few people are genuinly happy for others.

Just be confident in what you've done and happy for yourself.

Ultimately you have to do what works best for you. Its hard to step back into the work arena after being SAHM.. im yet to do that.. been home for 18 yrs now so i applaud your pride in yourself for getting a job you feel happy with! Im terrified of trying to get into the work force but thats a whole nother topic.

Well done , OP.
Take a leaf from their book and be less supportive of them.

Congrats on the new job!

If your friends are not in the same boat perhaps they dont understand what a big step it can be to move from sahm to working mum, especially for those mums who have lost their confidence (not saying that’s you btw, just saying in general).

You should be well chuffed for yourself.

Perhaps if your friends have a more er posh job or something, they don’t know how to respond to you getting what is presumably a more menial job and don’t know whether to go down the “oh god has it come to that” route or congratulate you on a job they despise.

Perhaps they are a bit job snobby?

Personally I don’t care whether someone is a cleaner, on a till, a dog walker or a manager in £300 grand a year minimum or is Richard Branson. It’s the person that counts not the job. The job will be there when they’re not, nobody is indispensable!

Well done you :)

Don't give another thought to other people and their lack of comments.

You have got the job you want, with the hours you want. Win-win all round. Good luck. I was a SATM for 16 years, so I totally get where you are coming from. :)

Congratulations! I truly hope you love and enjoy your new role.
I’ve had the same experience - unfortunately it turns out they all knew the place I’m working at - and know how truly awful it is - sadly that are right. They were trying to let me know but far too subtley.

Well done 🙂

You've done really well and sound excited. It's so rubbish when people can't just be happy for us but it says more about them than us.

I rarely get any praise in my family for my achievements. Getting pregnant seems to the only thing my family get excited about! Getting a promotion or something doesn't even get acknowledged!

That's maybe why my sisters have so many kids (I have one) because they know getting pregnant and having kids is something they will get excitement about!

Well done you! What people don't understand, is that if we didn't have cleaners, checkout operators (ok, that job is being taken over by technology, but I prefer to go to a manned till) waiters, cooks, garage attendants, etc, etc, the world would be filthy, we'd each have to do everything ourselves, and a lot of the things we do for pleasure, wouldn't exist. The minimum wage jobs are what civilisation is built on, so be very proud!

I'm sorry your family haven't been supportive. Perhaps it's time to take a step back in supporting them whenever they want it, and focus on yourself. Does your DH want you to stay at home, because he realises he'll have to do more around the house, and with parenting?