to expect some positivity?

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I just wondered if I’m BU.
We were out last night for drinks with friends and I noticed a huge difference between my DH and others. Mine never says anything nice/positive about me. He only says negative things. There was another woman there and her DH spent the whole night saying nice things about her. Telling me good things about her and her personality/character. I don’t know. Maybe I’m BU but it’s really bothered me. Mine never “bigs” me up when we are in social company but I’m always bigging him up and his achievements. Would this bother you? AIBU?

Well, I would stop “bigging” him up for a start. Does he say nice things about you in private? Is he only ever openly critical about you in front of others or is it the same at home?

Some people are not openly demonstrative, either verbally or physically, in front of others. I think that’s fine. But by the same token, they shouldn’t be critical of you either if he’s not going to be positive.

I do think your friend’s partner sounds a bit OTT.