I have a friend who’s had a 3-4 abortions in the past couple of years and a couple of recent ectopic pregnancies - each time for the ectopic pregnancies she didn’t actually know she was pregnant she went to the hospital with pains and found out there, each time she was also between 4-9 weeks. I’ve supported her through all of this and I have suffered a heartbreaking miscarriage myself at almost 3 months so I feel like we can relate in a way and support each other.
Now - my problem is when she talks about her babies that died, she includes the abortions, and makes out to people that she has lost multiple babies even though almost all of them were through personal choice because she did not want those babies. Also, even though she didn’t know the gender she tells people ‘I’ve lost 3 daughters 2 sons’ and gives them boy/girl names which she now has in her social media bios.
Aibu for thinking this is wrong for people to lie and say their MC/abortion was a certain gender even though they didn’t even know? To me it feels like people are trying to make out they MUCH further gone than what they was, which I think is an insult to people who have been through that. And for her to talk about her abortions like they were miscarriages but was actually her own personal choice I just think is horrible because it’s not the same thing.
Thoughts?