To just ignore her

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Would I be unreasonable to just ignore MIL calls?

Just moved to a new country, she now lives about 10 minutes from me. She is one the most irritating busybodies I've ever met. She always has to be right and have her own way. She doesn't listen, literally can't get a word in edge ways with her. Everything I do with our baby is wrong, she wouldn't do it like that and I need to try and do things the way she would. When she visited us for a week 5 days after our baby was born it was the worst week of my life and on reflection I should have told my partner to wait longer but he's an only child and she lived far away at that point and he wanted to show off the baby.

Anyway, my partner is away on a business trip. She came round the day before yesterday to see the baby and she's been calling me all day today. Up til now I've ignored and planning on saying I left my phone at home while I went exploring. (I didn't leave my phone but I have been out exploring the area)
I'd actually like to just spend some time at home, me and the baby, while we settle in and I can pack for our holiday next week in peace!
Also my partner never was expected to entertain my parents alone when we lived in the UK So i just feel a bit put out that I'm expected to host his mum. I know I could say I'm busy, but we moved here 2 weeks ago and I don't know anybody yet so it's quite an obvious lie!

How long has it been since she seen the child ? If she hasn't seen them as you lived in another country she is probably just making up for lost time and the visits will die down
Is she really that bad or go u just not agree with her on anything?
I think sometimes because when they had kids they listened to their family mums grans etc so they feel we need help also but of course we have Google and Google also usually has a different opinion from what they are telling you

U have moved country and made a fresh start why not try making a fresh start with your MIL also?

Moving home isn't an option yet, definitely want to give this a proper go! My family were quite spread out in the UK anyway so there wasn't a huge support network that I'm missing so to speak. In fact it may be easier and cheaper to get here as long as there are no problems at the airport!

@Whatsnewpussyhat i wish we hadn't believe me 😅 however we really struggled with the house search, found it so hard doing it from the uk and the rental market here is saturated so houses we were enquiring about were actually already rented, things were just getting snapped up so quickly. And the date his new job was starting was getting closer and closer so when he came over to view some houses this was one of only two that was ready when we needed to move. Plus this area is close to my partner's work and friends and other family too. Next year when we'll be in a position to buy, I want to go further afield!! As luck would have it once we'd signed for this house, loads of gorgeous houses in further away areas with cheaper rents became available 😐

@Jesse70 yes maybe you're right and they will die down, she was here two days ago and we were with her twice before that too. She's quite old fashioned with a lot of things,. When the baby was born she was constantly trying to get me to give him water after a breastfeed, I declined and said we don't do that anymore but then heard her prattling on to my partner about how important it was. And telling me when the baby was about a week old she was sure he was going to get a lung infection because his hands were a teeny bit cold inside the house. And even though I know their hands and feet are always a bit colder and she's not a doctor it really made me start to worry about horrible things happening to him! And when we visited her when he was around 8 weeks old she was trying to get me to give him purées. She has also been quite nasty about my appearance, my dress sense, my hair, the way I do my make up. And I'm just a normal fairly good looking person with natural hair and make up, if I say so myself I'm not that bad! I've always let things she's said about me go, and there have been a few because my partner and I have been together 6 years, but i just can't shake her telling me what to do with my baby, it gets to me more for some reason I don't know.

I decided to ask her round tonight instead so at least my Sunday is free to do whatever I please now. Will take the advice from everybody to be firm and non-confrontational and set clear boundaries. And also to just try and get on with her and let things go more easily! But to also ignore for my own sanity if I need to 😝

That sounds sensible.

She probably doesn't realise she is being objectionable, my mum didn't and there was no point in telling her after a while (I did try), but she was good in many ways.