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Original poster

To want to gush about my crush?

56 replies

LoveLifeLaugh · 05/10/2019 00:13

I have a huge crush on a wonderful man. I want to talk about him all the time. I want to tell you all about how amazing he is. I can’t bore my friends to death with this!

AIBU to want to shout how I feel about him from the rooftops?

NC for obvious reasons.

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LoveLifeLaugh · 05/10/2019 00:51

it could end up been embarrassing / hurtful / heart breaking.
I don’t think I have embarrassed myself. I do feel heartbroken though.

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Mollie3 · 05/10/2019 01:02

How do you know nothing will happen? It could happen 😍

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LoveLifeLaugh · 05/10/2019 01:17

I would love something to happen. He’s actually leaving in December.

I wouldn’t know how or where to begin.

I’m scared. Scared he’ll reject me or laugh at me (he wouldn’t really laugh). We have become friends so I’m scared of losing his friendship.

What should I do? I need practical advice please. I have tried touching him on the arm but I just can’t do it without it seeming like a disrespectful grope. We’re quite respectful of each other’s space.

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SamBeckett · 05/10/2019 15:01

1st , offer to bring him tea/ coffee to his desk
2nd , do you have a staff canteen ? sit on the same table as him .
3rd , if you dont have a canteen tell him you are going to xxx shop for dinner does he want anything .
4th tell him you fancy a change and are going to xxx for dinner does he fancy coming .

Repeat one , two and three a few times over the the next few weeks , then try four a couple of times .
Once you have had dinner a few times ask him for a drink after work on a Friday , go somewhere that you can sit down and can be heard ( flirting while having to yell to be heard is not sexy ! )
Only have one or two drinks , the last thing you both need is been a drunken mess at chucking out time .
Rinse and repeat

Be prepared for him to say no at anytime and respect that and step back .

Charlottejbt · 05/10/2019 15:06

He sounds pretty hot. Ask him out in December, assuming he's available.

Lifeisabeach09 · 05/10/2019 15:26

If he is single and leaving, ask him out for dinner unless he is leaving the city/country. No point in starting a long-distance relationship.

DonnaPaulsenSpecter · 05/10/2019 15:32

Are you sure he's not in a relationship or even married? Hmm

Fairylea · 05/10/2019 15:35

If you’re both single wait till he leaves and then contact him and see what happens!

colourlessgreenidea · 05/10/2019 16:10

Ha! Because sometimes it pokes through his shirt at the front and he absentmindedly tugs on it, pulling it forwards.

He’s a beast.

Ah, up until this point I thought you were a big unhinged, but from this and the uber-twee username I deduce that you’re on a massive piss take. Grin

colourlessgreenidea · 05/10/2019 16:11

He sounds pretty hot.

You read the bit about him pulling on his chest hair when it pokes through his shirt? 🤮

StyleItOutAgain · 05/10/2019 16:19

Don't do what I did and get smashed at the works do and tell him

And not be able to remember really what was said

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FavouriteSong · 05/10/2019 17:33

Oh God yeah, probably best to avoid the works Christmas party. You'll have one too many shandies and proposition him in front of his new girlfriend, then spend the rest of the night snogging Dwayne from Accounts to try and make him jealous.

On second thoughts, if he's moving on in December and is definitely single, then you have nothing to lose. Tug on that chest hair and whisper something saucy in his ear the next time you're close to him.

Then post on here and tell us how he reacted...

Charlottejbt · 05/10/2019 18:29

You read the bit about him pulling on his chest hair when it pokes through his shirt?

Grin I can see how that would be weirdly arousing. If others don't like it, that means the OP has less competition!

Katinski · 05/10/2019 18:35

tell me more about his strong legs,OP.Wink

NoSauce · 05/10/2019 18:38

Is he married?

Waxonwaxoff0 · 05/10/2019 18:42

I felt like this about someone. Took 2 years for me to pluck up the courage to say something, he told me he liked me too and I was in heaven. Then a month later he decided he preferred somebody else and left me in the dust.

Proceed with caution.

EmmiJay · 05/10/2019 18:50

I think I have a crush on your boss now...just from reading this. He sounds lush.

chinupchickeny · 05/10/2019 19:09

I recognise the description of this person

I'm sure it's not the same guy but if it is he's a grade A tit!

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LoveLifeLaugh · 05/10/2019 19:18

Ha! What are his initials chinupchickeny and why is he a tit?

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HuntingCuns · 05/10/2019 19:22

Has he been recently suspected of being a shoplifter and storing the stolen goods down his trousers? It was in The Times this week.

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LoveLifeLaugh · 05/10/2019 19:31

No

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HuntingCuns · 05/10/2019 19:45

You should probably rule him out, then. Grin

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LoveLifeLaugh · 05/10/2019 20:05

I don’t really understand what you’re getting at HuntingCuns

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Kittenbittenmitten · 05/10/2019 20:14

Haha can relate to the standing next to him And getting turned on. That's happened to me with only two guys, my DH and before I met him, a man with whom I had a casual affair. I was less experienced when I met casual man and had never felt anything like it, it bowled me over. We stood next to each other, his arm brushed mine and I felt like I had received an electric shock.

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LoveLifeLaugh · 05/10/2019 20:26

Kittenbittenmitten I have never felt anything like it. I told a friend about it and she was shocked that I’d never had that before. Mmmm...

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