Nobody Says Thank You Anymore

[el1zabeth]

In the past several months, I've been to a few celebrations - weddings. 21st birthdays, that sort of thing. They're not close friends, more the grown up children of work colleagues and the like, so I've given money for gifts rather than buy something they won't want. It's been between £30 and £50 each time and, maybe I'm old fashioned, but I would have thought that the least the recipients could have done, is to send a brief 'Thank You' card.

Am I being unreasonable to expect some sort of acknowlegement or is it the norm now that nobody says thank you?

I love getting a card, but I know not everyone has time, money etc for that which is fine. I would expect a thank you text though if no card. Surely everyone can manage that? I have to post a lot of gifts and I do worry about things not getting there, and at weddings you do hear horror stories about other people taking cards and cash. Maybe your idea about a cheque is better now I think about it.

Mumofboth You think its a "waste of time and paper!"

It's a shame I didn't think it was a waste of time and paper when I wrote a cheque. You also said " I don’t give to receive thanks which is exactly how you’re coming across"

Christ, It costs nothing to say thank you..... I work with their mothers/fathers and not even verbally was it mentioned "so and so said thank you for the gift"

Yanbu OP. I am on the verge of saying no more to the teen and young adult dc of both family and friends. No need for a big ta-da. A simple mention in a phone call or a text is fine!

This exactly what we were discussing a few days ago. We've been to a wedding recently and we've given a cash gift (this is the norm in the country we live in but ours was above the usual cash amount people give at weddings). No thank you, no acknowledgment, nothing. My fiance thinks I'm overreacting, but I find it terribly rude.

So I made a point that immediately after our wedding to send thank you notes (even if it's only a facebook/whatsapp/text).

However, re "thank you", I've realised no one says thank you in another circumstances either, which makes me really sad. I always say thank you, have a nice day, please, etc. Doesn't seem to be the norm anymore.

I stopped sending presents to my niece and nephew. Not a word of thanks or confirming that they got the things. Funnily enough their parents were cross when my other brother's step kids never thanked anyone as well. Mind you out of the three of us I was the only one that would send out a thank you note, mum tried to get the boys to do so but nope!

I also hate that people won't say excuse me when trying to get past you on the bus, especially if there were by the window. They just stand there. I want to say "Even pigs squeal".

My god daughter, who I am very fond of, nonetheless never acknowledges or thanks me for any birthday or Christmas gift.
This year I won't be sending her one. It's nothing to send a text or an email, she doesnt even have to go to the effort of a walk to the postbox!

I totally agree with you OP. My children are getting older now but I insist that if they haven't been able to say a face to face thankyou then they write a note or send s message. I think it's really important to acknowledge this. Seems so sad that this is seen as old fashioned or no longer needed.

All these cards and wrappings are bad for the environment anyway
But the gift wasn't??????
People are arrogant and graceless these days.
Imagine an elderly person/relative getting their neighbour to do something and the neighbour saying she didn't even thank me. I would think people would pile in here saying don't bother in future.