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WIBU unreasonable over the washing up

27 replies

issano · 04/10/2019 08:15

Ok I'm going to explain this in terms of person A and person B.
Generally on weeknights person A cooks and person B washes up. The last two nights person B has been busy so person A has both cooked and washed up (which is fine).
Last night person A decided to wash up whilst cooking tea (so all the mugs/plates/bowls etc used since the night before) as tea was only shock horror chip butties, so only one baking tray and 2 plates were being used.
Therefore after tea person A didn't wash up again as thought it was a waste of water to run a fresh bowl.
This morning person B has noted that there are 2 plates, a baking tray, and 2 mugs that haven't been washed. Person A explained there was no point running a fresh bowl of water.
Person B is not happy and said that as they are chief washer upper it should be done how they like it. Person A has said that if they are that bothered they are happy for person B to leave 5 items of things to wash up tonight and they will do them, to which B replied they won't be doing the washing up at all (even though person A is busy tonight and will be rushed enough cooking tea).
So WIBU unreasonable A or B?

OP posts:
TheresAFuckOverThere · 04/10/2019 08:20

How old are these people ? 12?

Tell B fine, you wash up what you think is acceptable, then I will do the rest (dickhead)

TheresAFuckOverThere · 04/10/2019 08:21

And get your own dinner

Coffeeandchocolate9 · 04/10/2019 08:22

Your partner is being a dick.

MindyStClaire · 04/10/2019 08:22

Might you be Person A OP? Grin

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 04/10/2019 08:23

I can’t be chewed, wash or don’t wash, first world problem and all that nonsense.

GrandmaSteglitszch · 04/10/2019 08:23

Person B is not chief washer upper.
Person B is taking the piss.

bloodywhitecat · 04/10/2019 08:24

Life's too short for that kind of disagreement but yes, if B didn't like the way the washing up was done then they need to do it thrmselves.

BertrandRussell · 04/10/2019 08:25

If it was my ds and dd behaved like this over their job I’d be refusing to be a taxi for the weekend. What sort of sanction are you going to impose, OP?

OkayGo · 04/10/2019 08:25

If he’s chief washer upper he should fucking do his job then shouldn’t he?

honeylulu · 04/10/2019 08:26

Person B is not happy and said that as they are chief washer upper it should be done how they like it they will do it themselves

There, fixed that.

dementedpixie · 04/10/2019 08:26

Dont cook tea for person B. Less to wash up then!

Shoxfordian · 04/10/2019 08:26

Person B needs to either do the washing up or be quiet about it

frazzledasarock · 04/10/2019 08:27

Well if person B had been doing their job there would be no dishes waiting to be washed now would they.

I’d tell person B to do their own washing and cooking. And mean it

TORDEVAN · 04/10/2019 08:28

Why is person B not being grateful that person A took over for a couple days and just getting on with it! B should be happy to do those few extra bits.

Overall though, silly little thing to have a disagreement over.

Reallybadidea · 04/10/2019 08:31

Get a dishwasher and share cooking meals

Oysterbabe · 04/10/2019 08:32

Your partner is a knob. I can't believe people live like this tbh. DH has just chucked all the stuff from last night in the dishwasher because neither of us could be bothered last night. Why does it matter?

Original poster
issano · 04/10/2019 08:47

Haha yes I am person A funnily enough Grin. Person B is actually my mum though so unlike a partner I can't just LTB...I agree she is being incredibly petty hence why I started a thread to prove her ridiculousness.

OP posts:
AppleKatie · 04/10/2019 08:51

She can’t be both chief washer upper AND expect you to do it for her. That’s a contradiction in terms.

Original poster
issano · 04/10/2019 08:52

I would quite happily never wash up again I hate doing it but if it wasn't done all hell would break loose.

OP posts:
ShirleyPhallus · 04/10/2019 08:52

i can’t believe people live like this

Indeed. These were the kind of conversations we had at university.

Get a dishwasher. And tell your partner to stop being a knob.

Ps, chip butties 🤤

Original poster
issano · 04/10/2019 08:53

And for everyone saying buy a dishwasher I would but we simply don't have enough room.

OP posts:
Queenbean · 04/10/2019 08:55

How old are you?

Peanutbatter · 04/10/2019 09:06

A and B stick to routines. If A doesn't have clean items then either-
A says they say they cant cook until washing up is done

B washes up quickly and dries while A cooks
A serves up on what's available (chips eaten from the bag / sandwiches on kitchen roll)
When pile gets enormous A claims to be busy and goes out (to eat) while B has an evening of washing up.
B is being unreasonable.

Fisharesexierthanme · 04/10/2019 09:07

If person B is chief washer upper then why is person B even discussing it with person A? Why isn't person B doing what they claim they do and just wash the offending items?

steff13 · 04/10/2019 09:11

Person B is not happy and said that as they are chief washer upper it should be done how they like it.

Then she should do it herself. Why complain? Just do the dishes.

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