AIBU to be so angry at work colleagues commenting on my weight?

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I'm skinny. Naturally so. Every day I have work colleagues commenting on my weight such as my legs look like pipe cleaners, I've no chest and the worst being I look like a child.

The colleagues who are saying this are a mix of thin and fat - they make me feel like I have an eating disorder and don't believe me when I say I don't diet, eat loads and am just naturally slim.

If I commented on their size then it would be classed as unreasonable so why is it ok to comment on mine - genuinely interested in why some people feel it's ok to comment on weight when it's not over

'I dont like you commenting on my body. Please dont do it again. If you carry on, i will be reporting you to HR'

You need to tell them you don’t consider it an appropriate conversation for work.

Nobody should be commenting on anybody else's weight at work. Time to call them out on it.

"It's not appropriate that you comment on my body. Don't do it again."

I know where you’re coming from, OP. I’ve recently lost a bit of weight (not intentionally but not through illness as such) and as I was what most would consider slim beforehand, people now seem to have taken to commenting on my weight/frame as though they’re doing me a favour by pointing it out!

Those comments do sound particularly nasty though, I’m sorry. Are they colleagues who are normally friendly? Do they think they’re being funny?

Response "stop commenting on my body or I will have to escalate this via HR"

Please stop making comments about my body, I’m asking nicely this time, next time I shall be speaking to the boss/manager/hr

It’s entirely inappropriate to discuss anyone’s weight at work.

"Would you like it if I was negative about your body shape?!"

"Why is my appearance so interesting to you?"

Why the fuck do people think they have the right to comment on other people's bodies they must be stupid. I would go with stop commenting on my body or I will report you. I hope it works

God why do people think it's okay to say this to people? When I was pregnant an OB asked me "have you always been underweight?"
My BMI is in the "healthy weight" range for my height but she made me feel like I was being accused of starving my unborn baby.
It must be infuriating to be working with people with nothing better to talk about than your size.

They sound awful, OP. I’m slim too and have had to deal with this a lot. It’s bullshit. Agree you need to pull them up on it. I like a PP’s response "Why is my appearance so interesting to you?" because it turns the focus back on them. Which is where it should be because these comments are more about them and their issues than you. Different context but I said something along these lines to a very critical “friend” recently because I had grown tired of her attacking other women and their choices that had nothing to do with her. She flew off the handle and we’re no longer friends, which is a shame because she had so few of them... for some reason...

I wonder what their reaction would be if you came back with 'fuck off fatty'?. Obviously don't say that, but it must be so tempting, they sound like they're being nasty

also possibly ask them why they think it would ever be fucking helpful to say these things to someoene struggling with an illness that is in many cases fatal?

I’ve had this quite a bit over the years. I’m naturally skinny too. “You’re too thin! It’s not healthy.” Comments about my small boobs as well. Honestly like, fuck off, amirite?

The people who have said it to me are usually overweight and often on a diet. They would not be happy if I said to them, “you’re too fat!”

I don’t know if it’s envy, or if I just look like a freak who’s about to expire.

Whatever, I like being thin, and eat plenty.

Say, “Oh are we commenting on each other’s weight/appearance then? Do you want me to comment on you? Shall we go there? Really?”

You need to stand up for yourself and put these wankers in their place.

It's not ok. I can't imagine why people in this day and age, with all the awareness of bullying/discrimination etc., would feel it's ok to comment on someone's appearance. Crazy to me.

Hate that sort of thing, so many double standards. What about (in a confident, sarcastic voice with lots of people to overhear):

"Er thanks again, Betty. Always nice to hear everything you think is wrong with my body. Still the same as last week I see. Don't forget to let me know when you're ready for us to all let rip about your appearance."

I’d just say that’s a bit rude you fat fucking bitch

I used to be naturally very slim and lm quite tall. I loved it and was very happy with it and clothes just hung so nicely on me (there's a reason they use tall lean models in fashion houses)
Now l m older and put quite a lot of weight on (with the menopause amongst other excuses) l hate it and would love to lose at least some of it and have that body confidence and energy back that l had then.
But...what l don't miss is the free for all of making comments that seems to exist especially amongst ladies on the bigger side. Things like 'men like something to grab hold of though of course' or even worse : 'men prefer a real woman'
As has already been said can you imagine the outrage if l'd started looking up women up and down the same way and making comments implying they aren't attractive to men or that l was a 'real' woman but they weren't.

looking bigger women up and down, l meant to say

I'm so sorry OP, I feel your pain in a way, because people, even nice people who I like, comment on my husband being skinny, all the time. A few years ago a friend of mine said to me that he was scary thin. I didn't tell him obviously, but I was hurt on his behalf and have never forgotten it. Just like you, he eats plenty and does not try to be thin at all, it's just his metabolism. I often wonder, like you do, why it's ok to comment when someone is skinny, but not if they are overweight (not that I want to comment, at all, I don't care what weight people are). Luckily I don't think anyone says these comments to him because he has never mentioned it and is not body conscious. But I frequently get comments on it, it makes me wonder if people think it's my fault that he's skinny, that I only make salads for dinner or something it got to the point where I started pressuring him to eat more calorie dense foods, but I stopped that after a while because it was ridiculous, he is a grown man and can eat how much he wants. When people make these comments I usually frown, show my disapproval through body language, and if anyone ever calls him scary thin or anything so nasty again, I will tell them that it was a hurtful thing to say. I also have a small, skinny friend who recently had a baby, she remained skinny through her pregnancy, and she said people commented to her that her baby could not be growing properly because she was so skinny, which was so unnecessary and rude of them, and made her worry. Wish I had more advice than just stories, sorry OP.

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