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That she stood in a parking space?

169 replies

StyleO · 03/10/2019 22:08

AIBU to think you can't claim a parking spot by standing in it?

Out with DH in his large vehicle today, we spotted two spaces and so he headed to the larger one. As we pulled in, a lady stepped into it and pointed over the road to a car coming out of another space. He wound the window down and she said "sorry my sister is parking here". So from what I can see her sister was moving her car closer to the cafe they were going into, that's fine, she may be disabled. What irked us is the way the lady stated it rather than asking politely.

I don't think it's technically a done thing but no harm if done politely. We found another spot rather than squeeze into the other smaller one we'd passed. It may or may not be noteworthy that the car that moved would have fit in either of the spots outside the cafe.

Also noteworthy that the spaces are not disabled bays, nor are there any in this zone.

OP posts:
AryaStarkWolf · 04/10/2019 15:38

How magnanimous of you. Except she doesn’t need to explain herself to you and await your judgement on whether she is a deserving case.

No she needs to move. I'm pretty sure if you called a security guard in the car park she would be told to move aswell

DGRossetti · 04/10/2019 15:39

Well if I’m gonna be in a parking space Mexican stand off I’d rather be the one with heating, a radio to listen to and a bag of Werthers than the one just stood there like a bellend!

Grin
user1573334 · 04/10/2019 15:40

Reserving a space for someone who isn't there is twattish. However, their relative was only moving spaces, which makes it ok for me.

MintyMabel · 04/10/2019 15:40

Can’t believe posters are gushing to defend this entitled loon

Can’t believe people are rushing to call a complete stranger an entitled loon when they have no idea of the circumstances.

MintyMabel · 04/10/2019 15:41

I'm pretty sure if you called a security guard in the car park she would be told to move aswell

Then that’s what the OP should have done then. I wouldn’t be so sure she’d be told to move.

AryaStarkWolf · 04/10/2019 15:44

Then that’s what the OP should have done then. I wouldn’t be so sure she’d be told to move.

I'd be pretty damn sure she would unless the OP was trying to park in a disabled/parent and child space, without being disabled or have a child. You're very defensive of parking space hoggers Minty, do you do it alot yourself?

AlexaAmbidextra · 04/10/2019 16:05

Except she doesn’t need to explain herself to you and await your judgement on whether she is a deserving case.

Well she does if she wants the space otherwise she’d just be standing there like a lemon while I sit comfortably in my car.

tequilasunrises · 04/10/2019 16:05

@MintyMabel

I think if you’re going to do something twatty like stand in a parking space the onus is on you to explain if there are mobility reasons and people will be understanding. Otherwise you just look entitled.

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 04/10/2019 16:19

I can't see the problem. She was occupying the space. No rule to say it has to be a car. You just drive on until you find a space that isn't occupied.

Bluntness100 · 04/10/2019 16:23

I don't see it as rude, and I don't understand why you feel she needed to ask your permission. You were not entitled to the space. Effectively she was telling you it was already taken. Much like a table at a cafe when someone else has gone to order, they don't need to ask your permission either.

malmi · 04/10/2019 16:27

The people who think it's fine to do this are the same people who reserve "their" spaces on the public road outside their houses with the wheely bin...

AryaStarkWolf · 04/10/2019 16:28

Absolutely bizarre people think it's ok to reserve a space for a car with their body...it's nothing like reserving a table for people. Strange. Never came across this in r/l thankfully

ProfessorSlocombe · 04/10/2019 16:29

The people who think it's fine to do this are the same people who reserve "their" spaces on the public road outside their houses with the wheely bin...

They're not. They really aren't.

Saddler · 04/10/2019 16:30

Should have told her to shift out the way whilst slowly driving into the space

ProfessorSlocombe · 04/10/2019 16:35

I'm pretty sure if you called a security guard in the car park she would be told to move as well .... Then that’s what the OP should have done then. I wouldn’t be so sure she’d be told to move.

Security guard might have shrugged their shoulders and just said "So what ?". I'm doubting they get paid enough to devote too much brain power to the problem. In addition a lot of supermarket/shopping centre car parks aren't the responsibility of the store anyway. You'd have to find someone who works for the parking company ...

Joke alert<
The whole thread has made me think of alternative ways of allocating parking in busy areas, by requiring a person to leave the car and find a space before the car is allowed in the car park Grin. Appeals to my slightly perverse sense of humour. After all, no one is going driving without any passengers - the damage it must be doing to the planet Hmm
end joke

Cocolapew · 04/10/2019 16:38

This happened to me and DH in multi storey carpark. A woman jumped out of car 3 cars behind us and sprinted into the space DH was about to turn into.
He kept driving and she stood with her arms folded. We were half way into the space and she started banging on the bonnet yelling it was her husbands space Hmm.
We got the space Smile

Bluntness100 · 04/10/2019 16:39

The people who think it's fine to do this are the same people who reserve "their" spaces on the public road outside their houses with the wheely bin...

Eh no they aren't and what a weird thought,

malmi · 04/10/2019 16:41

Yes they are.

They are also the people who sit at a table seat on the train then spread their stuff across the whole thing and the other seats, then get huffy when you want to sit down because in their mind it's "their' table.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 04/10/2019 16:41

Terrible title. How could you be unreasonable that someone else stood in a space?

Nomorepies · 04/10/2019 16:41

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This has been withdrawn by MNHQ on the poster's request.

AryaStarkWolf · 04/10/2019 16:42

Security guard might have shrugged their shoulders and just said "So what ?". I'm doubting they get paid enough to devote too much brain power to the problem. In addition a lot of supermarket/shopping centre car parks aren't the responsibility of the store anyway. You'd have to find someone who works for the parking company ...

Probably right, I wouldn't do that anyway but I would drive in as far as I could and stay there until the person moved.... and I'm willing to bet they would move, it's alot more uncomfortable standing there then sitting in a nice warm car

pumkinspicetime · 04/10/2019 16:42

Eh no they aren't and what a weird thought,

Yup, I have never blocked a public road with a bin. I'm not seeing the link at all.

ProfessorSlocombe · 04/10/2019 16:44

Yes they are.

No they aren't. Two posters have suggested you might be wrong. Do you not think to ask why they say that, rather than simply repeating the incorrect answer again ? I hope you don't mark exams.

Josephinebettany · 04/10/2019 16:44

I think holding the space for her sister driving over is fine

woodhill · 04/10/2019 16:44

Yes and you look like an entitled prat stood there. First car there is first served not a pedestrian