How are you?

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We get asked this all the tine how often are we actually honest. So AIBU to start being honest I'm bloody crap just now have been for about six months. I know 100's of people but I have one friend. I'm a self employed single parent (to a 10yo DS) who used to have a huge group of friends a house which was never empty, etc, etc now I've been out once in a year. So wibu to be honest and tell folk I'm rubbish when they ask?

I used to have a huge group of friend DS still has plenty friends.

Go with it. After all, they did ask.

I always ask people if they want my stick answer of “I’m fine,” or if they want the truth.
Surprisingly, everyone asks for the truth!

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In my experience honesty tends to go down like a lead balloon, even with family. I just go with lying and saying I'm good.

Nobody really wants to know, sadly. “I’m fine, you? “ is what they’re expecting/hoping for!

I always answer honestly. I find some people glaze over and some are happy to hear the truth!

Nb: I'm actually fine right now :-)

I do the Northern thing, and say "Not so bad, how's you?"

In truth I have PTSD, think I'm probably going to be dead before I'm 40, I feel drained by life and want to know I won't always feel like this. But nobody asks you how they are because they want to know, they ask because it's almost a reflex.
So everyone says "fine thanks" or "not so bad" then both people can carry on their way

After my husband died, I got fed up with people asking as you good see the fear in their eyes as they prayed I’d say, ‘I’m ok/fine’. I started answering with, “I just keep putting one foot in front of the other”. That seemed to satisfy them and I stopped feeling like I wanted to scream at them, “stop fucking asking, because you don’t really want to know!”

I now say, “now don’t be asking that, unless you’ve time for my answer. It could take a while”.

I’m sorry you’re going through such an awful time HeadLikeAFuckinOrange. I hope life gets easier for you.

I'm always honest.

Great, I got a good nights sleep for once.

Ok, not a fan of this weather though.

Awesome, reading an amazing new book.

Shit, I've got a bad period.

People don't ask anymore.

I'm in America now and everyone asks 'how you doing?' It's taken me years to realise they don't expect an answer. I think they all think it's a weird British thing not a weird me thing.

@windandme my problem is things are shit and I can't even explain why!

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