Breast cancer awareness message

[weebarra]

I was diagnosed with Stage 3 breast cancer 6 years ago next week.
I had a bilateral mastectomy, lymph node removal, chemo, radiotherapy, ovary removal and have been on medication ever since.
I was very young for diagnosis and had three young children.
Thankfully, I'm ok at present, working and living my new normal.
Today, my husband's brother's MIL forwarded me this generic message:

Hi, hope all is well with you.. have a favor to ask for Breast Cancer Awareness month! Would you put a ❤ on your Facebook page, and then send this message to your women contacts? This is for women to remember it's breast cancer prevention week!
💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
Hold your finger down on the message and hit forward.

AIBU unreasonable to be a little bit 🙄? I know her, she knew me at the time. For me and the people I know with cancer, and their loved ones, every month is BC awareness month.

I.think.peop!e post this kind of shit without thinking about it and it's generally attention seeking ,how they think.posting a heart is in anyway spreading awareness is beyond me but I doubt they have given much if any thought

I hate all of those awareness type posts, but that's particularly crass.
The people who post about ''listening to each other for mental health'' are often the ones who are nowhere to be seen after you've had a MH crisis.

Did she send it to everyone and just not think about it?

I hate that twee shite and I’ve never suffered breast cancer. YANBU op.

I hate these sorts of posts. I very much doubt it does anything to raise “awareness” of anything.

YANBU. That's beyond insensitive.

Ghastly, unwanted posts that don't really effect any change.

They are the messaging equivalent of carbon offsetting. Awful

YANBU and regarding your diagnosis

I really hate this! I was diagnosed with BC earlier this year (also young and have a young dd) and my extended family insist on sending ‘positive’ quotes and memes constantly. I’d much prefer if they just frigging text asking how I am!

It’s like they just don’t click their brains into gear for even a second. Why would anyone think that someone with cancer wants to see this shite? We’re already living it fgs.

I got identical one believe me as a two year breast cancer survivor we've gotten the ultimate message

I'm glad people don't think I'm being unreasonable. Yes, she probably did just send it to everyone she knows.
Still it prompted me to put something on Facebook about giving money to charities who support research into metastatic breast cancer, which attracts much less funding.

YADNBU!!! How does putting a heart on your page help cancer ffs. Message him back with the CRUK donation page and tell if he wants to make a difference to put his hand in his pocket.

The virtue signalling slacktivist!
Look at me! I did something! I change the color of my profile pic, I shared a link, I liked something and even hearted it!

I did my share!

They forget about giving real help in time and money

I got this exact message and have a high likelihood of getting breast cancer. I asked her to cut the bullshit and share instructions on how to check your breasts rather than a bloody secret code. What help is that??

I generally message back ‘no’

I had this when I was having breast cancer treatment. I also had remarks like " oh you'll be fine , my cousin/ neighbour/ woman at work had this and they were ok"! It's just so patronising!

Yanbu. As someone just recovering from her 2nd run in with breast cancer this nonsence annoys me to a point of fury.

I generally post something blatantly saying I will not post a heart because it doesn't make a difference instead here are a selection of things to look for and how to look.
The lemon pic is a favourite along with whatever current self check diagrams I can find.

The platitudes and stupid comments just fry my remaining marbles

I detest any and all “awareness” campaigns. All the “awareness” in the world won’t stop people getting cancer.

Very insensitive, as someone who was diagnosed with breast cancer at 37, I would not appreciate this message from someone who knows my situation. IGNORE.

I loathe this kind of thing. I have breast cancer, if only someone had sent me a heart on FB it would never have happened....

I know you in RL @weebarra and think I know who sent this to you. If I'm right, she is tactless and bullish but her heart is the right place. From what I hear, she likes to do things through FB too as its visible and she can feel good about herself.

You're amazing and I can't believe its bewn 6 years since diagnosis!

Outed 😂

Sorry love. Maybe see you Weds eve!

Hate this! I had breast cancer 9 years ago. You’d have to be living under a rock not to be ‘aware’ of breast cancer.
Completely agree the research in to metastatic breast cancer is the area that needs funding. Considering a third of women who have breast cancer will end up with metastatic breast cancer. It’s not pink, it’s not about bloody hearts. I get very angry.

YANBU

I hope you both have a good time on Wed night🤣

But @rocking her heart might be ‘generally’ in the right place, but FFS someone needs to tell her to stop sending meaningless crap in an insensitive way and if she actually wants to help then to do something useful

I have two friends who have been for tests recently, thankfully both got the ‘all clear’ But I wouldn’t even send this shit to them, let alone someone who has had BC. It’s monumentally insensitive and stupid!

@weebarra it’s great to hear you’re currently doing well and getting on with your ‘new normal’ 🌷

It’s probably best not to reply to her, but I’m jot sure I’d be able to show that much restraint and I wouldn’t blame you one bit for being very blunt with her!

I hate this stuff.

I once commented on someone’s status and got a PM to say that as I had commented, I had to repost the status “to raise awareness of cancer”. How does this raise awareness of cancer? I asked (the post didn’t mention cancer). She didn’t know so I ignored it.