We're in the middle of selling our apartment and buying a house. Apartment is very much home, but needs a decent amount of work done to it. Buyer knows this, already owns another apartment in the building and is buying to do them up together and rent it out.
The house we're buying seemed to be moving very slowly and buyers solicitor got quite irate yesterday, so I called to ask for an update. The estate agent has told us that the seller has pulled out of the house they were purchasing but are looking for somewhere else and doing second viewings.
Mortgage is on fiancés job alone, because I'm newly self employed, although making enough money to cover it at the moment. Fiancé started job in June, but it isn't what he thought it was. I have no idea how. From what I can grasp, their industries use the same terms but they have different meanings, and nobody noticed until it was clear that he wasn't really understanding this job. His boss has noticed that he seems down and it's not what he thought and is offering support if he wants to stay, but he isn't sleeping, has lost 7kg in three weeks and says he has a pit in his stomach all the time.
I don't know what to do. I've tried helping him with the work at home, but it's not really my field either, just closer to mine than his. I've tried looking for full-time work myself and I could go to interviews, but my industry has been hit by Brexit and I have bipolar. I've tried going along with his idea that he'll stick it out until January and we'll review, when we should be in the house, but he's looking gaunt and unwell, he's not sleeping, he's driving 3 hours a day and he's barely the man that I know. I don't know if he can last that long.
What on earth do we do? House is lovely and they rarely come up here, but not perfect and I do think we're overpaying compared to some on the street... but it is lovely and I can imagine it being home. Apartment would need work and staying would mean I carry on both living and working in the same room most of the time, but it keeps costs down and means fiancé can look for another job...
I can't concentrate on work, or sleep, this just keeps going round in my head and I'm worried it'll set off a bipolar flare. I get some scan results back later which isn't helping, really.