I have a new job that I feel lucky to have after not having worked since Dec 2014 and have been a SAHM. It’s part time (2 days a week), during school hours, and offer hours on the weekends which is great due to my husband often flying out of the country for work. We have one son in reception and the other now in nursery the days I work. I’ve only started last week and have done four shifts and have found that I really like this job despite it being retail. My morning routine during these days is to get me and our sons dressed and to drop both of them off as well as the pram and head to the bus (eight minutes away walking, 4-5 if you run/ walk).
Our sons’ grandparents are staying with us and know that I have started a new job, and the hours. I have a routine with the boys so that we are all where we need to be and I’m early for work so I can have breakfast beforehand. I don’t get a lunch break due to the hours. The job is a 20 min bus ride away and we are to be there 15 minutes before starting time. Our oldest wet the bed, so I had to start a bath, change the sheets, pop them into the wash and him into the bath. He is SEN and doesn’t like this break in routine. In the meantime, I had gotten quickly dressed other than my hair and moisturiser and taken him out of the bath and dressed him. He headed down the steps and as I was about to head in to finish my hair and make-up someone went into the loo and proceeded to take a shower! I diverted to dressing my youngest and getting him ready and they came out. They hadn’t opened the window nor used a vent so the mirror was fogged. I had to grab the stuff I needed, run upstairs to our bedroom to finish then get everyone’s coats on, and into the pram. By time, we left the house, it was 8:45! I got everyone to where they needed to be but missed my bus by minutes.
Today, I woke up earlier so it wouldn’t happen again. Had a quick snack and as I went to brush my teeth, someone had gone in and again proceeded to take a shower! I wasn’t dressed yet so proceeded to get my youngest dressed and downstairs then rushing in when said person was out, getting dressed, while my oldest finished breakfast and dressed him. We ended up leaving at 8:45 again! I made it to the bus, but was highly annoyed.
Am I being unreasonable to think that if you know that people are getting ready to head to work and school, you don’t hop in the shower or better yet ask if it’s ok to do so especially if you don’t plan on leaving the house until an hour or more after they’ve gone.
When we visit them I ask if anyone needs the loo before hopping in the shower so why wouldn’t they do the same knowing the situation?
AIBU?