To have a mini party for my son

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Not sure the right thing to do. It's ds's 6th birthday on Tuesday. I had a huge argument with dh yesterday. It was mostly his fault - I have a lot going on right now with work and I feel like he doesn't support me emotionally. I have tried to talk to him about how overwhelmed I am with everything but yesterday I felt like he wasn't hearing me at all. I shouted, and I threw a plate in the sink and cried out of frustration and I suppose to get attention which I do know is not very mature. I do shout occasionally but I'm not a shouter. Dh is not happy that I did this in front of our child, I'm not happy that I feel Dh isn't there for me.
It's Ds's birthday on Tuesday. Is it unreasonable to invite a few people over to have cake and play even though things aren't great right now. I need to tell people about it today as some of his friends go to after school club and it will need to be cancelled. It might have blown over by Tuesday. If it hasn't, I can just look after it on my own.

YANBU to celebrate your sons birthday.

Make sure you apologise to DS today.

if you're feeling overwhelmed ask your DH to arrange the party otherwise you're adding one more thing to your to-do list

Why wouldn’t you celebrate his birthday?

Don’t do it to spite your husband do it for your son.

I don't think the argument with DH needs to have anything to do with DS's birthday celebration. Celebrate with DS however you would have done anyway, talk to DS about what he saw and try to have a calm conversation with DH when DS is in bed.

I don’t get what the problem is? Why would you cancel it??

Yes, you can’t let your arguments with partner get in the way of celebrating your child’s birthday.

What has the argument with your husband got to do with the party? Have the party for your son (and make sure you apologise for shouting and throwing things)

Thanks for all of the responses. It's more we normally do this to this kind of thing together, and there's no communication at all at the moment, not sure if we'll be talking by Tuesday. And yes, do need to talk to ds about what he saw.

You should probably apologising to DH for getting aggressive too.

You say it was his fault but he'd probably say it was yours.

Tuesday is almost a week away. You need to be talking by then. It atmosphere will be too awful at home for your son if not. If you and your husband can't sort out your differences maybe you shouldn't be together anymore. Do you want your son to think that is how a relationship should be?