I’m saving up to leave my husband. He’s the textbook emotional abuser, every time I read a thread on here about control, gaslighting, stonewalling, silent treatment, it feels like I’ve written it.
I was a highly successful professional with a great job, own home and car when I met him. Now I’m stuck, we’re married but the house we live in is tied to his job without him I wouldn’t be able to live here. My work is tied to his job too, I jacked in my career to work with him. I can’t believe I’ve been manipulated into this position but I have. It can happen to anyone. All of my money from the house went into our super expensive wedding that he wanted.
I have savings that I’ve squirrelled from working in my spare time as a virtual assistant. He doesn’t know very much about this and has no idea about how much I’ve saved. It’s about £5600. It won’t get me a house deposit yet but it will if I keep going.
I know I could leave now with my savings but it wouldn’t get me far and I’d be worried I’d come back. When I go I’ll go forever.
Not really sure if I’m asking AIBU just wanted to get it off my chest. I read a thread earlier about a woman who’s partner tells her he earns more than her. She’s not married and won’t believe she’s being financially controlled and that he’ll get worse. Believe me he will. I wish I’d had someone to talk to in the early days, although I’m not sure I’d have listened to any advice in those days.
If you’re still reading thank you. We all need a bit of support every now and then.
Name changed for obvious reasons xx