To think friend never gave a shit?

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Group of friends that each time I’d hang out with I’d leave in tears. They were never malicious or personally nasty but they just had a way of making me feel shit.

I started to pull back and not see them as much. Been asked in group chat about meeting up (everyone not specifically me). I messaged friend arranging it privately to just be honest and say how I feel.

All I got back was a sorry you feel that way.

I didn’t expect life to stop and be pandered to. I just assumed a friend might be slightly more concerned.

Difficult to tell. Seems odd that you persisted in socialising with a group that upset you so much yet you can't say exactly why.

My ds has a friend in his circle that sounds a bit like you, she's very over sensitive and attention seeking, everything is a drama and she's always wanting to address him personally to "take her side". He says she's exhausting.

This may not be the case for you but it's worth considering why your friend isn't engaging with your narrative.

If they make you feel that way they may not be your people

Friends lift you up, we all have different energy’s maybe theirs drains rather than recharge you

I would look for new friends.

Especially if you don’t know what the issue was there is nothing they can fix or change , but it’s not healthy for you to feel that way

Without wanting to be shouted down, ive been on the other side of this.

Without giving the details, id wanted to distance myself from a friend for a while for various reasons. We'd not seen each other for a while, then I did a similar thing to reinforce the distance that had been created, although added a bit more reasoning rather that just 'sorry for the way you feel'.

'Break ups' with friends are tough. Sometimes tougher than breaking up with a bf/gf.

YABU to expect someone who is in a group that makes you cry every time you see them, to be concerned about you. Especially if they are never malicious or nasty, and you can't articulate the actual issue, she's probably baffled and quite insulted to hear that they make you feel shit.

It sounds like you just have to move on.

Well unless your a very sensitive flower these people obviously aren’t very nice if you cry every time you see them, so really what did you expect the reply to be??

Clearly this isn’t the group of friends for you.

As a general rule if someone makes you feel crap, avoid them all you can....

They're not nice to you when you meet up with them socially or when you try to explain how they make you feel. Drop them OP. For whatever reason you are getting nothing from this friendship and they don't care either.

Just to say as it may be unclear in the OP but I don’t cry in front of them and fall out with them. I’ll for example be driving home after seeing them and cry in private.

They (some of them) just have ways of putting me down. It almost feels like I’m the person they want around to feel better about themselves.

I didn’t address friend either to

• Make her side with me
• Create drama
• Want attention

She was organising it and I’d made my excuses the last few times so I thought I’d be honest.