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To go and tell my neighbour I've had lip fillers

34 replies

Numberblocks · 02/10/2019 12:38

I had a small amount of revolax filler put into my lips yesterday to add some natural looking volume to my non existent top lip, I had 0.5 so hardly anything at all but just enough to make my top lip a bit more defined.

Anyway, after the procedure there is some bruising and swelling which can be expected so I planned to keep a low profile until I can cover the bruise with concealer tomorrow.

My neighbour has just come round to ask about something and whereas I'd usually invite them in and chat I had the door open only ajar and was peering round the side of it trying to hurry them off because I don't particularly want everybody to know I've had the procedure. The swelling will have gone down by tomorrow and the bruise can be covered with concealer.

Neighbour sounded concerned and asked twice whether I'm sure I'm ok I replied yes and that I would catch up with them later. Upon reflection there's no way they didn't notice my swollen mouth and bruise.

I've just realised there's a possibility they could think my reluctance to chat, and bruised face, could be an indicator that I've been hit hence the concern.

It's a close knit community and I'm now worrying that my neighbour might think I've been hit, neighbour is male so it's unlikely he'd guess it was fillers.

Am I being silly or should I make a point of telling him I've had the procedure so he doesn't think the worst and think poor DH has done something.

Would you think what I'm thinking if you were the neighbour or am I just being paranoid?

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WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 02/10/2019 12:42

I would mention it to be honest. I've had a couple of facial injuries in the last couple of months (most recently a split lip) from injuring myself during seizures. I know people assume it's my DH, it's worse when it's strangers looking at us, so I always explain to people I know.

Justmuddlingalong · 02/10/2019 12:43

Nip round to discuss whatever they popped round about. Just say they caught you at a bad time and drop into the conversation about your filler. In a small community, any gossip flies round fast, so nip it in the bud before that happens.

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 02/10/2019 12:43

I liked your title btw, it seemed so random Grin

Zebraaa · 02/10/2019 12:44

I think you’re overthinking it. He probably doesn’t care.

Raphael34 · 02/10/2019 12:45

Definitely over thinking this

cancelledtrains · 02/10/2019 12:45

He'll probably guess quite easily you've had lip fillers once the swelling goes down so I wouldn't worry.

CrystalShark · 02/10/2019 12:46

Wouldn’t bother. You’re overthinking it. And even if he was genuinely concerned, going out of your way to go round and tell him you’ve had fillers just looks a bit ‘protest too much’ like you’ve been told to do so by your abusive DH or have panicked and cooked up a story to explain it. You’d just make it seem even more concerning! Whereas someone who has genuinely just had lip fillers wouldn’t think to jump to worrying about being perceived as a victim of domestic violence.

Twinkletoenails · 02/10/2019 12:47

I would mention it to your neighbour tbh

Original poster
Numberblocks · 02/10/2019 12:48

I think maybe I am over thinking it yes, it's not something I want to advertise but after shutting the door and replaying the conversation I thought oh crap I was behaving strangely and he sounded concerned Blush

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BatshitBertha · 02/10/2019 12:49

Yes I'd mention it because he acted concerned so has obviously noticed somethings up and will probably jump to the wrong conclusion.

NearlyGranny · 02/10/2019 12:52

I'd mention it, but it will still sound like an updated version of the old 'walked into a door' excuse. It's nice that he clearly cared and gave you a chance to disclose, as the safeguarding policies out it!

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Numberblocks · 02/10/2019 12:52

I usually see him multiple times a day coming and going so I will make a point of saying something like "I'm sorry I was short earlier on, I had a small procedure done and didn't really want to advertise it because I'm usually anti things like that"

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lyralalala · 02/10/2019 12:55

I would go round. Especially as tomorrow if they see you, because they know you have a bruise, they'll see you covering bruising with make up.

He might not believe you though. My DS headbutted me when he was 9 months - burst my nose, split my lip and bruised my cheek - and one of my neighbours is still to this day, years later, convinced it was DH and still frequently mentions being there to chat, or help in any way, if I see her when I'm alone.

Perisoire · 02/10/2019 13:00

@Zebraaa

I think you’re overthinking it. He probably doesn’t care.

Confused Except he obviously does care because he sounded concerned and asked OP twice if she’s ok. And it’s a good thing he cares.

MrsSpenserGregson · 02/10/2019 13:06

I'd tell him, yes. I know someone upthread said that the neighbour would probably work out for himself that you'd had lip fillers - but if he's anything like me, he wouldn't! I wouldn't have a clue what post-filler swelling/bruising looked like and it wouldn't occur to me that someone had had a cosmetic procedure done unless the results were very obvious, which you say yours aren't.

withlotsoflove · 02/10/2019 13:22

He probably “seemed concerned” as OP was using the front door like a peek a boo curtain!
Grin
I wouldn’t explain anything!
If he is also a friend , then obviously it’s a different situation.

Rachelover60 · 02/10/2019 13:28

Don't tell them, it's your business. I've had accidents where I've hit myself on the lip, people do - even fell over once and hurt my mouth. Jolly painful too! Let your neighbour think something like that happened.

kristallen · 02/10/2019 13:31

If you live with a DP then you should tell your neighbour. But don't say anything about "don't normally agree with things like that". Just tell him you'd had a small procedure and were feeling a bit under the weather.

It's not fair on any DP to leave the idea hanging around that they've been violent, in particular in a small community.

Drum2018 · 02/10/2019 13:32

I had a small procedure done and didn't really want to advertise it because I'm usually anti things like that

By all means say you had a small procedure but then leave it at that. The rest of that sentence is irrelevant.

kristallen · 02/10/2019 13:32

*if they haven't!

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Numberblocks · 02/10/2019 13:35

Truth be told I'm a bit embarrassed about having had it done, I should have just owned it and acted as I usually would. I will definitely clear up any confusion.

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verticality · 02/10/2019 13:36

Definitely mention it!

A friend of mine has a lovely, but slightly accident-prone wife. They work in the same field. While away together at a conference, she fell over and whacked herself in the eye with the end of an umbrella. She had a proper shiner for ages. The number of people who gave him very suspicious and dirty looks was just awful! When people see a woman with an injured face, it's the first thing they think!

I don't think you necessarily have to mention the filler - you could just say 'dental work' and it would cover it!

CymaticPrincess88 · 02/10/2019 13:44

Agree say you had to have some work done on your teeth. I was swollen af when I had to have teeth removed and looked like I'd gone 5 rounds with mike tyson.

FavouriteSong · 02/10/2019 13:44

I called round to a neighbour recently with a parcel I'd taken in, and she had two massive black eyes. I must have looked shocked because she immediately told me she'd had cosmetic surgery. I must admit, my first thought was that she was the victim of domestic violence.

BenWillbondsPants · 02/10/2019 13:47

Tell him you'd been to the dentist.