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My MIL is not speaking to me. Today's installment of 'Why my MIL is not speaking to me' (I could make this a daily blog) is that MIL came over uninvited, with a massive bag of sweets for the kids (ones with gelatin in. I am bringing the kids up vegetarian. She knows this and does this to make a point).

I said 'thanks MIL' and she goes off on one, saying I'm ungrateful, I never give the kids anything nice, she feels compelled to come round with goodies for the kids because she 'knows I never let them have anything nice'. She says I don't deserve her son and refused to come to our wedding as it wasn't in a church. Blames me for her son's newfound lack of religion. Says I'm feeding him poisonous lies.

She complains I won't let her look after the kids unsupervised, well last time I did that she tried to feed them meat when she KNOWS FULL FUCKING WELL THEY'RE VEGETARIAN. I get pointed comments and articles sent to me all the fucking time about how vegetarianism is bad for growing kids. When DS1 was born she wouldn't speak to me for a month because I wasn't able to breastfeed and I was a terrible mother, abnormal and all that. She relented after one month so she could see her GS, only to spend one minute with him, then leave, not even talking to me because she was mad at me for ignoring her advice to breastfeed (I COULDNT!!!!!!!!!)

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Sounds like a blessing that she isn't talking to you, enjoy it while you can. What do you and your dh do about her behaviour?

Yikes ! this won’t end well ..

Oh wow

Blimey

I think she's toxic enough for you to not communicate with.

Is your DH also a Vegetarian and is he committed to the children being one?

I was Vegan for nearly two years and it's easy enough to find Vegetarian jellies/biscuits/chocolate. She's doing it to make a point and you don't have to stand for it.

You need your DH to have it out with her.

do the kids want to be vegetarian?

she is an idiot though they are your children, your rules

Sorry op, but how much sympathy do you want from us when you're the one who continues to allow her in your life? Refuse to see or speak to her. Block her emails and calls. Be done with her entirely. I certainly would, without hesitation. There is no reason whatsoever to put up with her fuckwittery.

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Why do you keep letting her back in?

It sounds exhausting

She sounds dreadful anyway but maybe some of it is down to ignorance. We have brought our children up as vegetarian. We always said that when they were old enough to make up their own minds if they wanted to eat meat that would be fine. Neither of them have chosen to and both are very fit and healthy teens. My MIL was very against it at first and used to complain that I fed them rabbit food. However once she saw that they had a very good diet and how healthy they were she gave up. Make sure you and your OH always stand up to her and show a united front. If she continues though being so unpleasant you should go NC to protect your kids from such rude and undermining behaviour

Bet she is like this with everyone - hostile personality. Get the DH to sort her out and limit contact before she drives you round the bend.

Precisely why my exmil never had my dc unsupervised.
And why she was never invited round.
We saw her an hour twice a week at her house.
Took my own biscuits with us.
No animal fat ones.
Get tough op.