To find these things about MN really irritating

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Kind of lighthearted (don't need to be told the obvious that if I don't like it I don't have to go on the site) but reading through some threads and there's some things that I find really annoying on here:

1. people hijacking threads, someonne will post something and someone will comment saying Hi all I need advice... And then go on to add in their question and situation, completely ignoring the original OP. Why not just start your own thread
2. sometimes I just want to tell people to stop being such pathetic walkovers, posting that they don't know what to do about a horrible person in their life who treats them like shit.... Just tell them to fuck off and never see them again!
3. in the pregnancy threads, asking people online if you could be pregnant as you had sex but have had PMS symptoms etc. JUST DO A BLOODY TEST! how can strangers online tell you if you might be pregnant 🙄 Sorry I feel better now... Please do share what irritates you 😁

I don't get the what dress size / weight are you discussions.

I often sit here thinking "oh FFS you stupid person, GROW UP!"
Or "Really? How fucking stupid are you?"
And wish people would just use a modicum of common sense...

I post for advice on how to deal with my crappy relationship with my mother and sisters as right now I'm not in a position that I can cut contact with them down. If I move out I'll be homeless as I'm applying for jobs and waiting for benefits claims to go through in the meantime. I'm on the housing list but god knows how long that will take so for now all I can do is bite my tongue or grit my teeth and get on with things. I love my family but they're toxic so sometimes I need support. I'm trying my best to improve my situation but when life kicks you down sometimes the blows keep coming and it's hard to keep going.

I also find the 'am I pregnant' queries baffling. You can buy a cheap and reliable home test, people!

Likewise the - 'please look at this sonogram/hear my pregnancy symptoms and tell me if I'm having a boy or a girl!' Posts.

Again, there are tests that will tell you if you actually want to know. These posts are just attention seeking and silly. 🤷‍♀️

I don’t get these threads. There are usually 8-9 a week and they feature the same complaints time and again.

Yes those things are annoying, no they will never change.

I never read the 'am I, aren't i' pregnant ones to be honest

Some stuff really drives me bonkers, especially the why won't my five year old sleep when I'm sitting in a chair next to him kind of threads

But my DH/DP is a fantastic Father.
No OP if your DH/DP is treating you like dirt the mother of his children he is not a good father and is not setting a good example for his children.

The threads that go on for 15, 30, or even 40 or more pages.

I'm sure that even the OPs won't be able to keep up and respond. And I'm losing too many hours that I will not get back reading the same old replies.

It's a bit of a dilemma for posters. Post in the proper sub forum and get few replies or post in AIBU and they get so many they are overwhelmed and can't keep up. Then the OPs get chastised for disappearing!

sometimes I just want to tell people to stop being such pathetic walkovers, posting that they don't know what to do about a horrible person in their life who treats them like shit.... Just tell them to fuck off and never see them again!

I hide a lot of these threads. They drive me crazy as I find it hard to sympathize with the OPs, then I feel unkind.

Huns, hunning.

Thanks Penis Beaker

The lengthy pages get to me too, in the name of having to skim through all the responses to see if OP has updated anywhere.

it would be really handy if the replies had a ''like'' function. Saves repeating the same advice over and over because a thread has gone on for too long.... :)

I was surprised when I first came on MN at some of the snippy comments, and some downright nasty ones, to either the original posters or others on the thread. Mistakenly thought MN would be mums supporting mums - although tbh a fair bit of that goes on as well.

Thread bunfights that have no relevance to the OP's original post.

Ppl posting in threads multiple times with long replies stating xy&z reasons why they are right and other posters are wrong.

Unimportant posts that could be resolved quite easily. Usually by "just go and talk to her/him/them"

The fat shaming

I know I am a horrible person, but I hate to see arguments on threads where, out of the blue, one side will bring up mental health issues, abuse, or something else thats very personal and sensitive, sometimes just to make a point or to shut down posters with differing opinions. I find it really upsetting. I am not talking about threads where these subjects are already being discussed.

100% agree OP. The pathetic threads do my head in when the OP is given advice and keeps bleating 'oh but I can't do that' like orvil the duck.

I never click on the 'is this a line' threads either as I don't get the premise.

There is also an influx of what I assume are trolls with really badly written rambling posts that spiral into incoherence as the post goes on. I always get sucked in at the start then realise its another bloody one half way through. I'm spending more time on reddit now where stupid comments get down voted to oblivion so you don't see them.

There can be an underlying judgement of mental health, (covered by a totally non judgemental stance) - e.g. comments like it being a 'get out if jail free card'. Also, a clear difference between posting about someone's own mental health or that of a partner / man.

When people post the same advice/ opinion that had already been given 100 times on the same thread.
Especially if the OP already responded on page 1 why it would be impossible.

When someone has a vote which is 98% unanimous but 2% have voted "YABU" for some unrelated reason like "YABU for using the word hubby" or "YABU for not leaving him years ago"

I don't like threads which just lecture a community on how horrid it is.

The solution is at your fingertips. Literally.

Post what you think is better, on the threads in question.

I loathe the “feminists” board.
I don’t go on it but see the posts on the “active” button.
Since when did “feminists” mean transphobic? Horrible to read.

Most threads where someone is furious over something or nothing that can easily be resolved by having a sensible conversation with the person/asking the person.

School threads in a similar way. Try not being furious on Mumsnet, call the school and talk to the teacher and seek a sensible resolutions (and ignore the inevitable advice of demand to see the head / call Ofsted )

OP: AIBU
MN: Yes
OP: no I'm not

I find it really sad how many women put up with aggression, insults and general arsehole behaviour. They'll post to complain then when everyone tells them they're right and he's a fuckwit they then backtrack about how he's got X and y redeeming features etc. Happy to settle for the tiniest scraps.

Like I say I'm not annoyed as such I just think it's really sad they think this is the best they can get.

It seems to be a little known fact that you can hide threads and hide whole boards. I have hidden everything that annoyed me about MN and it is a much prettier place.

I don't get the "do you see a line" threads where I'm looking at a negative pregnancy test and a lit of people say they see a line? And then the OP gets a period and all of a sudden it's an early miscarriage? No you nitwits, it was negative to begin with.

The posts where people ask for easily googleable factual information because many responses are wrong and the OP generally thanks those posters and ignores anything that is correct.

Eg - what is my luggage allowance when flying, on an unvariably unspecified airline. People post anything from the tiny bag allowed by Ryanair to the quite large cabin case plus smaller bag allowed by flag carriers. Why on earth would you ask such a question on here when you could look on the website for the company in question and get the correct answer that has been checked by multiple people?

Or random 'surveys' that generate information that is completely meaningless as there is no context or quality control of the data. Eg 'what is your disposable income' and people post answers from nothing, £2.50 to £18000 which are totally meaningless because nowhere has 'disposable income' been defined, no discussion of life stages, family size etc etc, just a random list of figures that mean nothing. Why? What's the point.

And the way that people state all sorts of shite with the authoratitive air that it is indisputable fact 'you should overpay your mortgage because you will save thousands'. Er no I won't because the interest rate is next to nothing and I earn more interest by just leaving the money in my current account.