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AIBU?

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To say they shouldn't complain

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PinkGlitter123 · 30/09/2019 21:49

Cousin works 21-23 hours, no kids and boasted that she has had only 2 days off this year as annual leave . Aibu to say she doesnt need much annual leave as the hours she works are so short anyway?

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AnneLovesGilbert · 30/09/2019 21:53

Is she boasting or complaining?

Either way, anyone can complain about anything they like. Children aren’t the only reason people need time off. Is that what you’re suggesting?

msmith501 · 30/09/2019 21:55

Rather a non-post to be honest. What's there to be proud of that she hasn't taken her legal annual entitlement to holiday? What is your point OP?

Bluntness100 · 30/09/2019 21:59

Eh. Why does it bother you?

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PinkGlitter123 · 30/09/2019 22:00

Sort of boasting/complaining. Just making out she works really hard when she works well under the standard 40 hours. Just got my back up a bit

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LolaSmiles · 30/09/2019 22:00

I'd say she was being a mug to be honest. She is employed and contracted to work her given hours and part of the package is a set amount of annual leave. Unless she's in a company where she can sell her annual leave to keep the cash, I think she's being daft.

Your comments seem more bitter than anything else. People have different terms and conditions, others need to get over it (or if they really do want those TS&Cs, go do that job).

ThePallidBustOfPallas · 30/09/2019 22:03

Why do you get to adjudicate on how much annual leave anyone needs?
What a weird post.

Ponoka7 · 30/09/2019 22:06

It depends on what her job is and when her hours fall. Also what she likes to do in her spare time.

My DD, college leaver only works around 25 hours a week (usual student type job) but because she's got friends at other UNIs and they like to get rotten, she has to book her time off.

If your hobby is gardening/gym, or you wanted to fit visiting your Nan in, then you wouldn't have to.

But as said, everyone has the right to have a moan. You could shut her down if you wanted to, but why bother?

AnneLovesGilbert · 30/09/2019 22:07

Still not sure how you can both boast and complain.

How many hours do you work and how much leave do you take?

imnotinthemood · 30/09/2019 22:13

Urgh she sounds like my ex colleague would go all year without hardly a day off then try and squeeze them in at the end or loose them . She was all gleeful about it too kind of boasting / complaining that she had all these holidays but no time to take them . I just ignored her ffs what's the point . I just used to say to myself the woman clearly has no life/ friends out of work .

ilovesooty · 30/09/2019 22:22

She's a fool if she hasn't taken her leave entitlement.

I don't see why the fact that she has no children is remotely relevant.

LolaSmiles · 30/09/2019 22:34

imnotinthemood
It's not always sad. I worked somewhere on flexible hours and there was lots of give and take so it was easy enough to do compressed hours and take a long weekend to see friends / family. I'd often find that I had a week or two still left with 3/4 months to go.
I never did the whole "I'm too busy to consider taking it" thing, instead felt grateful I worked somewhere where I'd had such a good work-life balance that it hadn't used it all up instantly.

imnotinthemood · 30/09/2019 22:42

I never said it was sad.
The ex colleagues never took long weekends she didn't take any days hardly just waited till the year end and would Try and squeeze them in and was all vocal about it too . Perhaps she never had anyone to spend the time off with .

Sunshine93 · 30/09/2019 22:47

Just roll your eyes. There are people like this everywhere unfortunately.

I remember a woman at my work saying "oh no I never have a day off I always plough on through no matter what" I had recently had pneumonia so it hit a nerve but regardless it's people like that who bring flu and other nasty bugs into the office. They should be told to go home, making everyone else sick so that you can be holier than thou about other people's absence is nothing to be proud of.

I know your complaint was about holiday but it's the same kind of person. Someone who thinks a person's worth is judged by their ability to not rest, take breaks or need any support.

LolaSmiles · 30/09/2019 22:47

I thought that was implied by the suggestion that clearly they mustn't have friends or a life out of work. Sorry if I've misunderstood.

I think people have different thresholds for downtime. Some are content having evenings and weekends with odd days, others live to work.
My sister's partner rarely takes blocks of holiday unless DS prompts him to, but seems to regularly take odd days here and there as holiday, seemingly to bum around. I think it's a waste of good annual leave but it keeps him happy.

In your ex colleague's situation it would be the vocal commentary that would annoy me.

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