To not give dp money.

[Talkallday]

We don't live together.
I work FT & DC attend nursery FT, I am however currently staying with family so my outgoings are minor bills & rent.
DP works PT but private rents & on UC.

I gave him a chunk of money recently because he said he had no food & Intetnet needed paying. However, he is now asking for a larger chunk to pay for car insurance etc but because he missed a payment it seems extortionate.
He messed up his UC because not sticking to his commitments or something so getting much lower. He hasn't paid his credit card so that is now void too.
I have told him once I pay for childcare & my minor bills I have X amount to pay for rent &/food (will not cover it) but he still asking for money.

Sorry but it doesn’t matter that his children are in school, that’s no reason to work part time. I assume he must have custody? If so is the mother paying maintenance? Your responsibility is your children, not him and his

If he needs more money he gets a full time job, as others have to, or gets someone to baby sit and stacks shelves at might

Don’t give him any more money.

I really can't get my head round this - you're asking if she pay your partner's bills for him when you've already loaned him money and through his own behaviour has buggered up his UC.

What reasonable reason would you?? No wonder so many men get away with taking the total pee out of ?desperate women. Sorry if that's harsh OP but you'd need to be an absolute spoon to give him anything more

How long have you been together? Doesn’t sound like a partnership, more a casual boyfriend.
I can’t believe you’ve given him money in the first place. Get rid before before he bleeds you and your kids dry

In what way is he a “DP”? I really don’t understand why people use partner on here so much instead of boyfriend. This is not coming across as any kind of partnership relationship. He’s a financial mess - just bail out of that now.

I'm sorry to hear you are destined to poverty. Can't believe he is asking you for money.

He has no self respect asking you for money. He is a scrounger. He will waste any money you give him. That money is for you and your child. By giving him money then you are not motivating him to get out of a bad situation and meet his responsibilities as an adult. Next time he asks for cash, tell him you cannot see yourself in a relationship with a man who depends on others to get by in life. He should sell his car if he is in financial distress, he should get rid of the Internet and phone if he cannot pay. He could use a library wifi for free to get a job. Why are you settling for a man with such low goals in life? How will he make a good partner or step father?

Unable to work FT due to DC being in school what does this mean? You know full well that's rubbish. So no-one works full time until their children are 18?

You can't give him money. If I were you I would set up some savings and for these months you are at your parents put your normal rent in an account you can't access on payday so that it's safe for your kids and you can answer honestly that, no, you can't help him. As a parent wouldn't spend a penny on someone elses debts unless I had a lot to spare. Once you have children it's time to put them first.

I hope you're NOT funding him OP.

You've told him if you give it to him you will be short to buy food for your children and he's still asking. That is a huge fucking red flag. Selfish git.