WWYD ??

[thefootofourstairs]

If you got married with just 2 witnesses ( a married couple ) that you’d never met before and then they looked you up on Facebook and messaged on messenger saying it had made their day to do it and would like to send you something . ?
I am actually a bit annoyed at myself for not being trusting as i think they are probably just lovely, they seemed it and hugged us after the wedding , wishes us well etc but it is a bit random and I am a little worried about giving them our address .
What should I do ? WWYD ?

Meet them for coffee publicly?

I think I'd take a chance, the footfourstairs. I understand your misgivings but you say they seemed lovely so they probably are. Even if they are not all that lovely, they're hardly likely to be axe murderers.

Congratulations on your marriage.

I don't know why they would have a reason or motive for doing anything dodgy, OP!

They probably want to send you a card :)

Would give them my address.

Ooh i'd be a bit wary about giving my address out too OP. Not sure why exactly ...

I'd say thank you for your congrats and thank you again for witnessing for us but there was no need for any presents/card from them. You could possibly include a vague suggestion of a meet up (all 4 of you) in the future. However, would you want to meet them socially? because once you do one meet up the gates will be open further so to speak.

(i should add i'm a polite but basically antisocial sod)

Thank you . It’s horrible to have suspicions I know . I have no reason to other than being burned in the past . I will reply with address then 🙂

We swapped details with our witnesses anyway. I really wish I'd have reached out to them to say a proper thank you as they went out of their way to help us with last minute prep (we married abroad).
I'm awful at social things so used not having social media as an excuse to dodge them and now I feel cruel.

I'd be wary of giving too much personal information out though. Maybe offer to meet in person if they're close by.

It's a big thing in someone's life to witness a Wedding.

If they were weirdos they could get a copy of your wedding certificate and that's got your address on

But they just want to send you a best wishes present.

Laiste , no I wouldn’t want to do anything socially I’m a bit of an introvert but I’d feel terrible ignoring someone who just wanted to do something nice .

Why did strangers witness it and wheredid you find them?!

I'd follow my gut instinct

If they seemed nice and normal then it's very unlikely their intentions are anything other than good so I would give them an address

You missed out! MN is great at providing witnesses for weddings - there was a beautiful thread some time ago. Anyway, I digress - congratulations on your marriage. They probably want to send you flowers or chocs or a nice bottle to wish you well and thank you for asking them to be part of your special day. They are probably nice people!
from me too!

I think if I (and my husband) went to the lengths of dragooning strangers to witness our wedding, i equally wouldn’t be the type that would want to invite them into my life.

I think then it would be fine to politely say no thank you, perhaps they could make a donation to a charity of your choice.

''I’m a bit of an introvert but I’d feel terrible ignoring someone who just wanted to do something nice.''

Oh i'd never ignore! (but purely speaking for myself i would wriggle out of giving address)