To feel a little sad that I may be expecting again

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All the signs are there..i am happy with just my LO atm I love him so much, he is my life. I cannot imagine feeling the same for another child. I don't know why I'm feeling like this. Is it wrong that I feel like this? I've always said when LO starts school then I'd consider having another.

I thought I could never feel the same about a second baby, but I did. I loved him just as much as ds1. You will too. There's a bottomless well of love. It doesn't get used up.

I think that's not an uncommon reaction, so I'd try not to worry about it.

Instead, focus on the positives. Your child could soon have a brother or sister to love and play with and experience childhood with. Things will change with a second child, but in many ways those will be changes for the better!

I am expecting my 6th and trust me you will love the second just as much as the first. I adore all my children. I love seeing them together and to have a sibling is just fab as a kid. ( even when they fall out). So please do not worry.

Use contraception in case you are not. If you are get contraception sorted early next time. You have options if you want to pursue them. 5 years is a big gap, nice to have siblings a bit closer than that

I became pregnant with Ds2 when Ds1 was 3 months old and I remember crying to my mum that I couldn’t imagine loving another baby the way I loved Ds1
I worried that I’d ruined his little life but he absolutely adored his brother when he was born and within a short time didn’t even remember not having him around.
you do love them just as much.
I went on to have 5dc and I love them all equally.

I felt exactly the same and even posted on here about it. The first trimester I was torn apart by feelings of "what have we done? Is it normal to feel like this? Will it damage ds? I feel so guilty he will no longer have all of my attention! I couldn't possibly love another as much!" The pregnancy was much wanted but still took us by surprise because we'd struggled to conceive ds 6 years earlier. We were ready, but not exactly prepared for a positive pregnancy test.

I relaxed into the pregnancy in the end, but my feelings at the start could not have been more different to the feelings I had when I'd fallen pregnant to first time.

Happy to report that I fell in love with dd as soon as she was born. Love for your children is a bit like the universe - it expands into space that doesn't seem to exist. It is infinite. I love them both with all my heart - and so will you.

If this was true there wouldn’t be so many favourite youngest children around!

Dont forget that if you are pregnant then all your emotions will be hightened! So ugh! Get used to it :(!
Im on number 4 and have felt like this about every single one! Lmao! Theres always some sort of "sh*t what have we done!" Whether its about love, managing, going through labour again, or just pure emotional "i dont want another baby"!
I still love them all! Some days they do my nut in! But i still love them all the same!
I think id be more worried if you didnt have any doubts or worries, perfectly normal :) xx

First thing is to confirm it either way, do a test. You have signs but signs aren't a pregnancy and there's no sense getting upset over a maybe.

Second is that it can normal to wonder what you've done. I wanted DC2 so much and the day before giving birth I had a huge crying fit to DH that I was ruining DC1's life by making him share, how could I ever love another child as much as I loved him, how would I juggle two - all the usual worries. The good news is that when you have another child, the existing love you have isn't halved. It doubles. You create that amount of love all over again and then you create even more when you see both DC together.

Thirdly, and most importantly, you don't have to be pregnant if you don't want to be. You have options and choices. If it's not the right time for a second DC then you can choose not to continue and you can wait until it is the right time.

Voice of reason- do a test for giving it headspace!

I couldn’t imagine loving another child as much as my first, and when I knew I was having another boy I expected a carbon copy of my elder son. New baby is so so different and I can’t believe I ever had doubts as he’s an adorable little creature and I love him totally and easily ! So in conclusion it’s normal, as least for some, to feel like you do.