That I don't want to get married?

[Misskg1982]

I've been with my current partner for 8 years, we live together, have a mortgage together and we have a 2 yr old DD.
In a convo over the weekend I was asked did I think we would get married and I said no. We have talked about marriage yet neither one of us feels it's for us. But as I said this the person I was talking too started asking are we happy (we are, have our ups and downs like other couples) she then said there must be an underlining problem which is the reason why I don't want to marry him.
Its just got me thinking. Am I wrong to not want to get married? Is it cause his not the "one". I don't believe this and I know I'm prob being silly in over thinking this. But what are your views??

My DH died aged 37. His illness was completely unexpected. If we hadn’t been married, I wouldn’t have got a penny of Widowed Parents Allowance

So long as you have wills, life insurance, pensions etc sorted, you're fine. There's no such thing as legal next of kin, my partner has been in hospital and they've been perfectly happy to tell me what's going on.

Marriage is no guarantee of protection - there are countless threads on here about men who don't pay up or twist the law in their favour. You need to be financially aware of your situation and protect yourself.

The ironic thing is, over the years the most judgey people towards us are either now divorced or having problems in their marriages themselves.

Thats not ironic at all, as the benefits of marriage mostly surround the end of the marriage. If you are currently together and happy, there's really no difference practically whether you are married or defacto. It's when you split up or one dies that the legal advantages come in to play.

1300 Cakes- it depends on the circumstances of the split though doesn’t it. For example, its more difficult for a woman fleeing domestic violence/any form of abuse (including financial) if married as more likely to have joint finances/house in both names etc and then there comes the expense of actually getting a divorce which is an extortionate amount of money if on a low income. I know people who massively regret getting married as it’s much more difficult and costly to ‘unravel the ties’, so to speak, especially if there’s children involved on top of everything else.