Estranged husband sneakily staying in the house, 2 months after he moved out, whilst I'm away for weekend. AIBU?!

[Mydietstartstomorrow]

So, split from husband 8 months ago. After 6 months of hell living in the same house, in different bedrooms, eventually he moved out to a friends whilst we sell the house. He pays less than half the mortgage now (only so there remains an equal equity split when we sell) and I pay the rest and all of the Bill's. Me and my teenage son (not his) live in the house until its sold. Relationship with husband is at it's worse ever state, particularly since hes been seeing someone else. I've been away for the weekend and have returned home this evening to find he's been staying here ALL weekend. Hes made a great effort in covering his tracks, tidied up after himself, taken all his empty beer cans (drink problem) but I noticed on my smart meter the heating has been on ALL weekend (I haven't even put the heating on yet) so I text him and he admitted it and said "what's the problem". I hate the idea that hes just coming and staying here whenever I'm away, having god knows who back here, and being so sneaky about it, it doesn't feel like my home. AIBU??

Lowlandlucky that's a good idea think I might try that. He knows I can't legally lock him out but he wouldn't be able to afford to take me to court anyway. He couldn't buy me out or get the mortgage on his own. If he'd messaged me to say he was staying I would have still been pissed off but it's the underhanded way hes gone about it, covering all his tracks, i find it sneaky and kinda creepy. wish he'd been that clean and tidy when we were together! 🙄

Next time you go away invite someone to house sit for you and make sure it’s someone he really doesn’t like so he won’t want to stay. I’ve got a very loud, shouty friend that you are welcome to borrow

If he's staying with a friend then I'd be thinking he stayed at the house with a gf.

OP, you might need some legal advice. Somewhere in the back of my mind is a thought that as the house is no longer his primary residence he may not have the right to waltz in whenever he likes. Its worth checking, and get him to pay for the heating.

My estranged DH and I have a separation agreement which states that he has to inform me when he intends to come to the house. Can you not set that up?

Dont tell him when you're away. Get some timer switches and put them on random cycles throughout the day and evening. Leave the tv or radio on. Go away by train so your car is still around. Hopefully he wont guess you're away again

I'd be sending him a bill for the heating that he has used, if he's contributing to the mortgage he is well within his rights to visit his house too imo.