Please can you help me play frisbee with my friend?

[IMarrissher]

I have had a bereavement this year, and I have put on four stone since (July). I am sorry for posting this on here - I am just miserable and have no friends to talk to, and I have completely shut myself off. I have Aspergers and am having trouble reaching out to my friends from University.

I am lonely and have no friends to talk to at the moment. :( I would like to invite one or my friends from University to play football or frisbee with me when I next visit London. I would like to play Frisbee with my friends in Green Park. I am afraid that a dog could take the frisbee though.

I have messaged this friend before (when I have been feeling like this), and they have said to me ' [My name is Redacted] you can always talk to me :) and i dont know of anyone who hates you you're such a lovely person. I think you just need to gain perspective on the situation you feel you're in. Has something made you feel this way today? Because like i've said before, i dont know anyone that hates you. There are lots of people who care about you and want you to be ok'.

This friend, when they came back up to University to visit, invited me to play frisbee with them last year, and I enjoyed it and talking to/catching up with them.

I am thinking of writing a message such as:

Hi [Name Redacted],

How are you doing? I miss speaking to my friends a lot. I was just wondering if you ever wanted to meet up again to play frisbee or football and talk? I wish that I could meet with you to play with the frisbee again when I next come to London.

Please could you help me write a message to reach out to my friends? I do not have my mentor/support worker available to help me at the moment (as she normally would), as I have had to lodge a complaint about the mentoring company with the ICO (due to a different matter).

I miss my friends, and really want to play frisbee with this one again and talk to them again. Please could you all help me write a message that will help me, as I have Aspergers, and no support workers available to help me. I miss my friends so much. I am lonely - please help me reach out.

Sorry, I thought I'd read in the OP that you were female.

It is okay. :)

I feel pretty miserable at the moment. Obviously my mum is unwell at the moment as my Grandad has just passed away, but I don't even have any space to mourn myself when dealing with her grief.

I am so isolated and just want to reach out to friends.

I think suggesting a catch up is a great idea - i’m always happy when a friend gets in touch that I haven’t seen in a while, and am usually happy to meet up with them.

Maybe as well you could think about how to expand your circle of friends locally? Are you working at the moment that you could make friends there? If that’s a bit overwhelming, Do you have any charity shops locally that you could volunteer in? Most are happy happy to take people even for a couple of hours a week, and you could do things like sorting donations which don’t require customer interaction. This would also give you time away from your mum, who doesn’t sound like she’s in a good place.

So, are you TWH-B from twitter?

Yes! Are you a supporter of Tom's (considering that is the only place I posted my message, and I have practically no followers!)?

Tommy!

No, but I live in the same town. Definitely not a fan of Tom!!

I don’t think you are too old for frisbee! It is a fun game and lots of people enjoy playing at many different ages

Oh wow - it is a small world!! I don't particularly think he'll appreciate me tweeting him it, but I am just feeling so low tonight. I have got him to write to the Minister for Loneliness for me before, so I am sure he understands my quirks by now!!

I have become very isolated since my grandad passed away. I feel numb everyday. I just want to reach out to friends, but do not have my mentor/support worker available to help me. I feel so isolated.

@PositiveVibez - It is hard to cope with when she is unwell. :(

If you fancy meeting for coffee and a chat then send me a message.

Hi @flowersinthebedroom - That would be good. I am extremely shy at meeting new people though - hence this thread, where I need help to even reach out to friends.

I don't have my mentor to help me reach out at the moment, as I have unfortunately reached a point where I have had to refer the mentoring company to the Information Commissioners' Office. :(

@Choice4567 - great - I love playing frisbee!

Hey OP, I'm sorry things are so rough for you at the moment. I'm also 24, have aspergers and at uni and dealing with bereavement. I feel like I may know you as your situation sounds similar to one of my friends. I may be completely wrong and we don't know each other but feel free to PM me to chat or maybe meet up or talk. I totally get the situation and it's nice to talk to people who can understand.

No one is ever too old for frisbee. It's a bit like football as in its for any age.

@ConfusedAndStressed95 - sorry to hear you are going through a similar bereavement - it is just such a numbing feeling at times. Not sure how PM works on here (I am quite new). Have tried clicking your name and others who have said PM, but it doesn't seem to work!

@RubbingHimSourly - Great to hear! I really enjoyed it last time we did it, but that was at Uni, and was on private land. Wasn't sure how it would look a 24 and 23 year old playing frisbee in a public park, however, you're right, the feeling of fun it brings should override the dooming feeling of 'what do people think' - who cares anyway?!

I've sent you a PM, it takes awhile to get used to the site so dont worry if your unsure about how it all works at first.