To be grumpy at this comment?

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I know full well I’m being unreasonable here!

I went to a good uni (think Durham etc), my brother went to Oxford. Historically I was more academic and probably more of an all rounder, got better results, he’s very clever but really shone at his subject. Told someone today where he went to uni and they made several comments: oh, he’s the clever one then, he’s the smart sibling, is he?

Aibu to be a bit annoyed by this? I laughed it off but it’s angered me a bit! I’m currently studying for an additional qual that is taking up my hours so probably being touchy

Probably a bit tired and stressed, but I totally get it and empathise.
I have this with my brother because he did astrophysics (oooh how difficult and sciency) as opposed to my Classics and later Biology. He is obviously more likely to answer green questions on Trivial Pursuit correctly and know all about science. Having a penis probably helps (in my family at least)

Try not to let it get to you is all I can say.
And crack on with that studying! Good luck!

Yeah, that would piss me off too - DH and I are both PhDs but to my grandfather DH MUST be brighter than me because Man. He talks in glowing terms of DH's science PhD and is more or less dismissive of mine. It grates, I have to admit.

The ironic thing is my Dsis probably gets compared to me (she is not scientific and did arts) and grits her teeth too

Yes, I'd be annoyed. That is really offensive, to say to the person in front of you that they're the dim one in the family.

Thanks! Thought I was being a bit touchy. Sailed through school in top sets, got into a top 5 uni but because it’s not oxbridge somehow it’s lesser in some people’s eyes - really annoyed me! He said it very seriously as well...

Well it's definitely an ignorant thing to say but to most people Oxbridge is going to equal superior intelligence; the history, the reputation, the entrance criteria.. also I went to Durham as an Oxbridge reject as did many of my cohort

I'm on the other side of this. My parents friends, my friends and some of my sisters friends say I'm the intelligent one in the family.
My sister has 2 Degrees, one from a prestigious University and a Masters. She works in education and runs her own business. I have a business degree from a fairly crap Uni and work in retail.
But she's blonde, stunningly beautiful and laughs allot. So beautiful must equal stupid.
I always correct people and end up apologising to her, I know it makes her feel shit.

I don't understand this I went to a good uni (think Durham etc) why cant you just say where you went? why do I have to think about it ? no one is going to identify you. Durham had 18,000 students last year.

Sailed through school in top sets, got into a top 5 uni but because it’s not oxbridge somehow it’s lesser in some people’s eyes It's lesser in most people's eyes. But that doesn't mean the person standing in front of you is unintelligent because they didn't go to Oxbridge and their brother is "the intelligent one" because they did. And even if you're stupid enough to believe that, it's still rude to say that to the person you're dismissing as unintelligent.

I don't understand this I went to a good uni (think Durham etc) why cant you just say where you went? why do I have to think about it ? no one is going to identify you. Durham had 18,000 students last year.

Agreed