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Maître de flirting with my first date

30 replies

meccacos2 · 29/09/2019 17:15

It was my one year anniversary today with my partner.

We went to a reasonably expensive restaurant on the beach.

The female maître de pulled the chair out for my partner. He ignored it and pulled my chair out for me.

It was at this point the maître de made an awkward joke about meaning to pull the chair out for me. Then she said if it didn’t work out between us - she would take him and made a deal out of it. Then said apologised to me saying I have a good man but repeated that she would have him if it doesn’t work out.

When he booked online for the restaurant you could say what the booking was for i.e. wedding anniversary, birthday, drinks only, first date.

I’m six months pregnant (visibly so). So I thought it would be funny to book in as first date.

In this context - was it a bit weird for the maître de to make such a comment that it we didn’t work out she would have him?

Obviously she saw that we booked in as first date.. When we walked in and he said his name she asked ”how do you pronounce your name?” (even though he has already said it.

He repeated his last name and then she said that they had discussed it and didn’t know how to pronounce it.

I just felt like she was flirting.

This, followed by the comment that she would take him if they didn’t work out makes me think she was flirting.

AIBU - or was the maître de flirting with my first date?

OP posts:
purpleolive · 29/09/2019 17:21

Aww been boring weekend? Chin up, back to school tomorrow 😊

alltoomuchrightnow · 29/09/2019 17:23

who cares if she was flirting? why is that a threat? Sounds like just banter rather than full on flirting

Sparklesocks · 29/09/2019 17:24

I’ve never seen ‘first date’ on a list of special occasions before!
It was probably just lighthearted chatter but even she was flirting, clearly your DP didn’t seem too fussed.

NinetySixer · 29/09/2019 17:25

Just in case you’re not a troll.

It is quite normal for waiting staff to make jokes to cut the ice. Even if she did have eyes on you DP as far is she knew it was a first date so she wasn’t about to nab someone’s husband.

HeavyChopping · 29/09/2019 17:29

I’m six months pregnant (visibly so). So I thought it would be funny to book in as first date.

Weird.

meccacos2 · 29/09/2019 17:31

@purpleolive

Aww been boring weekend?

Yes ...it has been a very boring weekend.

OP posts:
NewStart571 · 29/09/2019 17:32

The whole set up sounds weird sorry. At least your DH didn’t flirt back, which would have been a bit bad!

AloeVeraLynn · 29/09/2019 17:33

Just odd. And immature. 2/10

Goldenstarz · 29/09/2019 17:36

Been together a year or married a year

meccacos2 · 29/09/2019 17:44

Been together a year.

Yes, I know it was immature. I wanted to know how they would behave if they thought it was a first date. It was a little awkward.

It’s been a boring weekend.

OP posts:
ukgift2016 · 29/09/2019 17:48

School tommorow

Goldenstarz · 29/09/2019 17:52

U was together 6 months and got pregnant well tbh it mite not work out so

AnyFucker · 29/09/2019 17:54

Grow up

Instatwat · 29/09/2019 18:05

If this is real...

Why are you giving it headspace? If she flirted and your husband wasn’t interested, it’s no big deal, is it?

Blahblahblahnanana · 29/09/2019 18:07

I’m sorry that you’re getting a hard time OP. Reading your other threads it does sound that you do suffer from anxiety, and it may be having a few relationship problems.

Please either speak you your GP or your MW and seek some support.

Blahblahblahnanana · 29/09/2019 18:08
  • sorry for all of the typos.

In a nutshell, it sounds like you’re suffering from anxiety. Please speak to your GP or MW.

Leaspr · 29/09/2019 18:12

It’s a bit unprofessional of her but I wouldn’t give it any more thought than that. He’s behaviour is more important than hers and he doesn’t sound like he was flirting back.

RuffleCrow · 29/09/2019 18:12

It's a free country. You could complain you thought she was unprofessional if you cba.

TheTrollFairy · 29/09/2019 18:15

This whole thing is weird!

Celebelly · 29/09/2019 18:25

Who cares if she was anyway? Presumably your partner isn't going to ditch you during your meal and run away with her, so just laugh about it and move on.

Tilltheendoftheline · 29/09/2019 19:03

Honestly, if you are for real I think you might need support for your anxiety. You also claim people stare at you for being pregnant and not married.

I am guessing she was just being friendly and you keep reading far too much into things.

BlueLines · 29/09/2019 19:07

Did you see Mrs Patterson?

NoSauce · 30/09/2019 11:29

Oh it’s you.

Coffeeandchocolate9 · 30/09/2019 11:33

Don't you know it's rude to comment on somebody looking pregnant, just in case they aren't and just have a big tummy?

PickingUpLicks · 30/09/2019 11:39

Was it Skegness?