To just want to get this off my chest?

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My husband had a vasectomy nearly 3 years ago. He did the follow up test a few months after and was given the all clear that it had succeeded, no sperm, all was good.
Now I am on CD32 and still no period. Looking back at my cycle over the last few months I have gone to 32 days twice, but always with a bit of spotting from CD30 or 31. This time I have had no spotting yet, and no pmt. I usually get completely indifferent to my husband for a day or two preceding my period but this time i’ve Not experienced that. We have only had sex once this month on CD17.
I have started texts to friends but then deleted them because if by some really tiny chance I am pregnant I would not want to share that news with them until I knew all was ok and I had got my head around it (last pregnancy ended in miscarriage plus I am nearly 42).
I am writing this now with the full expectation that once divulged, my period will start as usually. Ooh I just had a little cramp.

I hope you get the result you want. X

It sounds like your period is just a day or two late: you're getting older (aren't we all!) and cycles can get longer/shorter and being less regular in our 40s.

My circumstances are almost identical to yours although I'm now 44, my periods suddenly started becoming irregular at 42 when I missed 3 consecutive periods for no apparent reason, since then I'm usually 28 days but every few months can go up to 40 days inbetween.

I've had tests which were all clear and the doctor said it's my age and building up to the menopause.

It's not impossible you're pregnant but the odds are vanishingly small given your age and the fact your Dh has had the snip.

I suspect I am just being paranoid, I just read a book where one woman gets unexpectedly pregnant at 41, and my mil’s hairdresser is about to have a baby at 45 when she just thought she was becoming peri-menopausal! The more I type the more crampy I am feeling.
I have had years and years of extremely irregular cycles and periods of vastly varying lengths, it’s only since I had kids that they have gone to about 28-30 days. The waiting is making me a bit demented

My periods started to get further apart from the age of 40. By 46 they had completely stopped. Do a test but it's very likely nothing to worry about.

Perimenopausual.

I would just do a pregnancy test, even if the odds are tiny it will be worth it to put your mind at rest.

Exactly Gertie, and I have PCOS, and it took us 4 years of trying to conceive DC1. I feel ridiculous for even entertaining the notion. Also my schoolfriend whose DC is same age as DC1 is unexpectedly having another. I think it is just on my mind and I needed to obsess a little without boring my husband to tears 😂

Probably not the reassuring post you were looking for but I got pregnant a year after my DH's vasectomy. His follow up test had shown non-mobile and dead sperm, which apparently was enough for the doctor to class it as successful.

After the surprise pregnancy the doctor sent him for another test and it showed mobile sperm. Apparently the same doctor has performed over 20k procedures and ours was the only one that had failed. He's since had it done again and the test has now shown zero sperm. So fingers crossed. I'm still on the pill though, I'm not sure I'll ever fully trust that it won't happen again.

I would be very happy if I was peri-menopausal. My mum didn’t go through the menopause until she hit her 60s, she was still having periods until she was around 62/63, so I would be really bloody happy if I am going to be spared that!
I am shopping later, if it hasn’t arrived by then I may buy a cheap test to do tomorrow morning.

Wow purplepingu what a shock for you guys. In my paranoid state I am trying not to take the fact that my husband’s favourite colour is purple as a sign 😜😂

My dh had a vasectomy too and I still get paranoid if I'm late. Except I rarely am really late I just seem to alternate between one short cycle and one long cycle so every other month I sit there twitching and paranoid that I'm pregnant. Sometimes a swear a hysterectomy would be worth it to get rid of the anxiety!