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AIBU?

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To think I'm not in the wrong

35 replies

cavendish4 · 28/09/2019 23:14

DP's sister is 8 months pregnant and had her baby shower today. Quite honestly I don't understand them and didn't want to attend. It was a 4 hour train journey each way due to the sides of London we are in and my side had rail replacement.

I said to SIL a while ago that I may not be able to attend and I don't have a car as I work in central London (thus commute). She basically insisted DP drove me and came to which he accepted.

Now the shower has occurred and DP is angry at me and not talking to me because of it. I had said I was happy not to to, he chose to drive me (2 hours and accommodation paid for by MIL) so we could go. We never see SIL so this was the first time we saw her pregnant. He thinks I should have figured out the driving thing myself (haven't driven in 7 years) and he said he will let me know of the next weekend he ever wants to spend with me.

I find it all unnecessarily mean. AIBU?

OP posts:
AnathemaPulsifer · 28/09/2019 23:46

I get why you contribute if he drives you everywhere, but why half if he uses it for his commute while you get the train or bus?

BumbleBeee69 · 28/09/2019 23:46

WTF did I just read...... Hmm

BumbleBeee69 · 28/09/2019 23:47

OP you are being SHAFTED from a great height... and you are allowing it, grow a pair of balls and find your self respect FFS.

GettingABitDesperateNow · 28/09/2019 23:49

He should have done it with good grace or refused. Its childish to agree with something then kick up a stink afterwards.

Also I get you pay half the running costs of his car...but he wont insure you on it!? Why not? That's awful!

Quartz2208 · 28/09/2019 23:50

He has a family issue
You had a DP issue

ZenNudist · 28/09/2019 23:53

Dump. End of.

AutumnRose1 · 28/09/2019 23:55

He sounds horrible
His family sound a bit pushy

Get rid.

MyKingdomForBrie · 29/09/2019 00:03

Well it sounds like he's being pissy at the wrong person, and if you have a house together why the regimented split finances?

Italiangreyhound · 29/09/2019 00:05

He sounds pretty horrible.

Do you live together? Have you been together long?

He is angry because his sister and his mum made plans for you as a couple, that you did not want to join in with but did, for the sake of his family? You sound amazing and he sounds horrible.

Thanks
Expressedways · 29/09/2019 00:09

Why on Earth are you doing paying for half of a car you’re not allowed to drive?! He wouldn’t need to do all the driving if you were insured on the car FFS. And yes he was a complete twat over the baby shower. That’s not the way you treat someone you love.

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