I full accept I’m a bit sensitive and fragile at the moment. I have had a touch year, lost a baby (my only child) early this year. I have recently gone back to work and that has been really good for me but trying to get back to reality has had its own difficulties.
I feel some friends have stepped up and some (not nearly as many) have not been v supportive.
Now this friend is one who I haven’t had a problem with. She came to visit after we lost the baby. She never mentions our child and I assume that’s because she feels uncomfortable/ doesn’t know what to say and I get that so I don’t really talk about it all and try to keep things light.
After I went back to work last month I bumped into her a couple of times as she works near me and we talked about going to a show or something. She even suggested a show. She is generally the less inclined to sort things out of the two of us - I’m usually the one to see what’s on or book a table etc (again fine) - but right now it’s grating on me. I have sent suggestions for shows etc and she said she needs to check with her boyfriend and come on night he’s not working as otherwise he’ll want to come(?). That was about four weeks ago. A couple of weeks later I asked if she still wanted to go. She said yes but been busy with work and will let me know.
Anyway I just feel a bit down and going back to work has been tough. I just wanted to get something “fun” in the diary and feel like I’m chasing her / waiting on her. I know she’s not a mind reader but she knows I’ve had a tough year and just feel like she could make a bit more effort to be honest.