Very quick background- exh took me to court for contact with our kids 2 years ago after social services stopped him seeing them due to domestic abuse.
We are finally at the stage where a final order on contact is imminent- hearing in 2 weeks, position statements submitted to court last week.
In his he has asked for no weekend contact and additional midweek contact with our youngest because exh plays football on a Saturday afternoon and doesn’t want to miss it.
He currently has one midweek evening after school and is supposed to have every Saturday afternoon, no overnights because he has no where for them to sleep and the kids don’t want it.
Our eldest has agreed to one afternoon a month but exh is saying that won’t be possible because of his football.
Fast forward to this week and exh tells me he’s now planning on moving away- won’t say where to or when or how he plans to see the kids or how often that would be because those are all too personal and me asking those questions and not just saying sure to his demand of having the kids overnight once he has moved is proof I am trying to control him!
So, my question is, AIBU to ask how often he plans to see the kids, how they would get to wherever he was moving to etc
As a final point- I’ve told him to resubmit his position statement so that it contains his plans so that we can discuss them at the hearing but he said he’s not going to and is just going to announce it on the day!