AIBU thinking some people are too up themselves?

[MotherofDragons48]

Having worked in an office for several years I have noticed a peculiar habit emerging. When going to speak to a Co worker, I noticed some people tend to kneel down beside the person they're talking to and give the impression that they are discussing something really important and confidential? I know in some cases it may well be but in others.... I couldn't help overhearing the discussion about what biscuits to order 🤔😂😂😂 These people will go out of their way to look important and it makes me want to just tell them to get a grip 😂
Also noticed an overuse of the word 'support'? A colleague sent an email out full of phrases such as 'push back' and other buzz words with the title 'do you support this'? ' I was cringing as it didn't really say anything but called for a meeting to be held to discuss who' supports'which department?
Just can't help thinking some people are just fannying around instead of getting on with the job! Sorry rant over...

'Push back' is my current most hated phrase. It's code for being a lazy bastard rather than just doing the job you've been asked to do!

Agree.
I can’t stand the term “reaching out” when contacted is less pretentious.

@Summerhouse where and when did that phrase become a thing? WHY???

@Sweetdreamer93 when did we start having a conversation instead of just talking about stuff? Or is it me being unprofessional? Going forward is another one that replaced in future I think?

Starting every sentence with the word 'sooooo'

People are “up themselves” for moving to be at eye level to converse rather than looming over someone???

People using annoying but common buzz words are also “up themselves”???

Honestly I get that “office speak” can be annoying But at how you think this makes them arrogant or smug

I kneel down at colleague’s desk so we’re at eye level and I’m lazy so cba to stand up if we’re talking for a while!

How does kneeling down make you eye level? Unless their chair is incredibly low or you have very long legs!

I crouch to speak with people because I don't like towering over them.

Office speak is a bit wanky but easy to pick up when you're in that environment and hardly means people are up themselves.

Sounds like you have a chip on your shoulder op.

I kneel down to talk to people because it means I can hear them better.

I think OP you are very judgemental.

Blimey kneeling sounds v uncomfortable. I would have to pull up a chair instead. I would find someone kneeling next to me a bit uncomfortable and weird too.

I really don't like people kneeling down to talk to me.

It makes me feel like they think I'm a silly toddler in need of extra attention.

I realise this probably isn't their intention, but that's how it comes across

It's not kneeling, more of a bending of the legs so you're either eye level with the person sitting or slightly lower.

I kneel down beside other people's desks if there is no chair to pull over as my back is fucked and I can't stand and lean over someone's desk to look at papers etc as it kills me. I don't push back and have not even heard the phrase. I think that far from everyone 'working their socks off' (yuk) all day there are many jobs that just require someone to turn up and appear to be doing something.

@Jennymanara interesting point but aren't you judging me for judging them therefore making you judgemental too? Is this beginning to sound like a song from a Disney film? 🤔🤣🤣🤣

Yes I am judging you OP. But you are assuming people are kneeling down to make themselves look more important. You are very wrong in my case. I am not making assumptions about your motivations for judging others in this way.

I get where you're coming from op I don't think your judging at all. If your like me I just find it puzzling why it's all really needed when we have managed with out said phrases for years. As for kneeling it's very rare you need to be on the same level for day to day conversation, it just isn't needed.

What I'm going to say now probably will sound judgemental though, because I don't see where or why it has all come about I worry these folk are masking something else, may me there all skirt and no knickers for doing all this for no reason when many if us as I say manage without it and have done for years.

I feel “reaching out” as well as being cringey AF has become far too widespread. Just about ok if there is some emotional content to the situation - totally ridiculous if you’re just contacting someone to arrange a meeting or similar.

I used to prefer it when male colleagues would kneel down, otherwise i was talking to their penis.

We were told to always look professional incase we had 'big bosses' turn up etc.

Your voice carries less as well when you are closer to someone.

I hate wanky corporate speech though.

I’d rather people made the effort to keep their conversations unobtrusive by crouching rather than my office where they all keep their arses firmly glued to their chairs and talk loudly over people’s heads. That pisses me off.

Corporate speak is just how it is. Of course it’s wanky and most people don’t talk like that usually but it’s far too easy to pick up and end up using yourself. Not much you can do with that culture if it’s ingrained.

I find people can talk at an appropriate volume and in a professional manner without to much effort, as for talking to a penis, may be you need to look at their face instead it's not hard on your part it takes minimal effort to look at their face.

I’d also think someone kneeling/bending/squatting was trying to be approachable actually.

Titsywoo think they mean kneeling like this, which give a lot closer eye levels than standing:sitting.

I'd say that - possibly - they need to be giving you more work to get on with. How does it even impact your life enough to write a thread about people kneeling down?

I would definitely do this, because it hurts my back more to stoop than to kneel. I don't think anyone is "up themselves" for bending down, that's just silly.