I am willing to be told i am ...
DH's brother and his wife have a 5 week old baby. They also have a 2 year old. The 2yo attends nursery 2 days a week. SILs mum has her overnight and the following day each week also - meaning they have 3 days without her each week, minimum. BIL works weekends and is off all week. They have 2 days to spend all together as a family.
To put it bluntly, even though they have all these child-free days - they plan adult only social things for the two of them on the only days they have WITH kids and ask family members to babysit. All of whom do, every time, as they love the kids dearly.
In the last 2 weeks, 2yo has slept out 3 times (3 different relatives), 5 week old has slept out twice. The parents have been for lunch together on a day 2yo wasn't at nursery, a 'date night' tea and drinks also on a day 2yo wasn't at nursery, a night out with friends and 2 evenings out for 'other' commitments without the children. This is not a rare thing either, this is the usual.
AIBU in being so angry about this. Would it be so hard to plan their date times when they're both free in the week when toddler is out anyway? I can't recall the last time we planned some adult time away from our children.
1 - because we actually want to spend family time together when we get the chance.
2 - our kids are our responsibility, not everyone else's
3 - our babysitters are too busy with aforementioned kids!
Yes, I'm well aware it has nothing to do with me but I can't help how irrationally angry I get when I hear they've been gallivanting yet again without the kids.
I feel so sorry for the kids - they have hardly any relationship with their parents as when they do have time together, the parents mainly ignore them anyway. Perhaps they're better off with other relatives - at least they aren't being ignored when they're with them.
Just to add, my children do sleep out probably once every few weeks - I fully believe in recharging the batteries and having time away from the kids. This is not a jealousy issue as I value my kids and our family time. I suppose they make me more angry as they are the type to say that parenting is easy & don't understand people who find it hard.
I don't think anyone would find it hard if they never saw their kids 😒
God I feel better just getting that off my chest! Anyone else have experience of people who just don't care about their children? Why have 2 (planned)? There are so many people out there who would give anything to be in their position. They just don't appreciate what they have!!!